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alhamdulillah part one of the rights
that we need to be observing in our life
is the right of the host upon the guest
we talked about the rights of the guest
which is always the subject you have a
guest there's rights for the guest to be
observed but also the host has a right
on you if you're going as a guest to
someone the host has a right on you and
this right or these rights something
that we need to learn there are several
of them as the they mentioned one of
which is to seek permission before
entering if you're a guest if you're
going to someone's place the etiquette
of seeking permission and to be present
at the time that is set for you to come
if there's a time set Allah
says so that means if the they are
called they should not enter the houses
of the Prophet Alat wasam unless they
are given the permission to do so right
so they cannot enter without the
permission and this is something that is
very obvious as a an etiquette that
needs to be observed and that's why the
etiquette of even seeking permission is
something that is part of the dean of
Allah subhana
tala one of these rights is not to be
there for a long time which makes it uh
difficult uh for the host
unless of course he is permitting he is
happy with this he is you know something
that is is pleasing to him the prophet
he
said which means it's not permissible
for a man for a Muslim to stay at his
brother long enough that he would make
him feel that he is sinful so they said
to the prophet Alat wasam
how would he make him feel sinful he
said that means he would stay there and
he does not have any means or any food
or anything to give him uh and to offer
him so he makes him feel that he is
sinful or being being unease and that's
why this is something to be observed not
to be heavy not to be there for for a
long
time uh the guest should not bring with
him someone that uh the host might not
be happy with and if he does then he
should seek permission first as thei
of he said from among the ansar there
was a man his name was Abu and he had a
young boy that is someone that is a a
welder or so and he said
cook some food for me I would invite the
messenger sallu alh
wasallam and he will be the fifth of
meaning five people would come so the
prophet invited a fifth one so or five
of them but a man followed the prophet
so the prophet
said you invited us five of
us and this man he followed
us which means that uh if you will uh
you can permit you know give him
permission to enter or if you will that
you can leave him so he says I give him
the permission to come so this is an
Evidence of to observe that but if
someone extra then you should seek the
permission from the
host uh one of the etic it's is to
advise the host uh
into keeping what is benefiting for him
especially that if there is need right
so what does that mean the Hadith of the
Prophet
when he invited the prophet and abak
andar and in it that when he brought to
them the dates till he went and he
slaughtered the the goat that he has the
prophet he said to him
don't Slaughter the one that you know
brings
milk why so that they benefit from it if
he starters it they're not going to get
milk anymore so this is something that
shows the guest has concern towards the
host and this is something that the
prophet did to make Dua to Allah subhana
for the host after you eat there is the
DU
the the fasting ones are breaking their
fast in your place this is a Dua for
them to continue to be generous and that
the righteous eat from your food and let
the Angels praise you and more of the
and the Dua to be
said also one of the rights is not to
spy on the person not to keep on gazing
and looking right and Abdullah he said a
man he
entered uh or
he entered to visit a sick and the
people were there and in the house there
was a a woman and a man kept looking at
her andd he
said if your eyes get
poked if your eyes get poked it would
have been better for you so it shows
that when a person is visiting someone
he's not to gaze and to look and things
like that but rather to lower the
gase uh being a guest three days is the
limit and what's more than that that
means you have the right for three days
if a person is a traveler what's more
than that it's up to the host it's it's
charity from him and the prophet
said that let him whoever believes in
Allah in the last day let him be kind
and generous to his guest and the best
of you know the reward that he would
give him and they asked the prophet
wasallam what is it he said the first
day of night and then he said to host
someone is for three days after that
it's s it's charity it's not something
that is mandatory upon him and to be
kind to him to with the best of means
and things like this um the even talked
about can the guest get something in
return if the host refused to host him
for example you know and you know the
prophet
you
know he said
that you send us to people and we go to
them and they don't uh take us as guests
so what should we do so the prophet he
said if you go to the people and they
give you what you deserve as a guest
then accept
that
literally says that if they don't then
take from them the rights of the guest
if he comes to them right so this is
again for someone that is traveling so
he can have what is sufficient for him
to take care of his own self right of
course the majority of the they say that
this is something recommended and of
course it's not permissible for the
guest to take from the money of the host
without the right to do so or without
being pleased with
that uh and this is some had explained
the Hadith in the light of this is
basically being in the bedwin life in
the way where the guest might not find
means of sustenance whatsoever so that
means they have to help him they have to
feed him and things of that nature and
that's why Malik he said something in
the like of
that the people of city or those who are
resident in towns and so on there's no
guest uh relationship in such a meaning
where it's a mandatory thing upon them
to host uh those who would come to them
but it's rather for those who are you
know living in places where there's no
other places for them to go because
people in cities they can find hotels
and things of that nature and this is
basically what the
prophet he
said meaning that in as as we heard in
thei of the Prophet that he can take
what is sufficient for him so they said
this is refers to those who live in
places when there's no other place place
but the the host place you know and as
as we heard
that here the the norm of the people was
something to be observed and you know
people they should not be you know
difficult or make themselves difficult
to others and things of that nature so
all of these types of things are
benefits and and and great rights to be
observed and it's not just for the guest
but also for the host and when someone
goes to someone's place and taking the
means of permission not to stand in
front of the door like this otherwise
you know to protect his eyes from
looking at something that is not
permissible for him and to observe the
etiquette and to sit where the host
would command you to sit you know and
wait for him to put you or to to make
you sit in a place where you might not
be exposed to the other rooms if you sit
in the place and you every time he opens
the door then the entire house is
exposing uh you know it's exposed to the
person so that's why when you enter the
house you ask the host where do you want
me to sit and the prophet did that where
do you want me to do this like that and
without imposing oneself and without
thinking well that's my friend I can act
the way I like all of that is to protect
the rules and and and commands of Allah
subhana taala without undermining the
generosity and the goodness that should
be
observed uh there are more things of
course to be said and this is something
that we should learn and we should
change in our life these types of things
and don't rely upon our cultures but
rather to look at the culture of
the and how generous they were and how
the Muslims you know they should be you
know imitating one another in matters of
goodness and not to take or seek excuses
that this is the environment that we
live in and this and that but rather to
seek rewards from Allah subh by the
generosity that it's ought to
be
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