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eates that we ought to learn in Islamic
education level three and this etiquette
something to be observed with one's
speech with one's actions with one's
state that he's in all kinds of levels
of actions that we need to observe and
these etiquet are based on the Quran and
the sunah of the Prophet one of which
is to to have the concern towards others
where often times it's translated as an
advice when you give advice to someone
but it's more than just advising someone
as we will get to know inshallah tal
first of all one of the clear nature of
the human beings that each and every one
of us bound to make mistakes so human
beings are sinful by nature and the
prophet he
said every son of Adam is bound to make
mistakes and the best of the Sinners are
those who repent to Allah subhana tal so
in in relationships for people to
respect someone that they don't have a
mistake or or a sin and then they're not
living this world that we live in so as
a result of that you have to accept and
you have to give the the concern towards
other people and the
prophet when he said this very
comprehensive the de is they said to who
oh prophet of Allah he said to Allah and
his book and his messenger and to the
leaders of the Muslims and the masses of
the Muslims so this is the subject of of
the therefore the definition of it is
the concern of the heart of the one that
is making to the subject of the so the
to Allah subhana tala means that you
have the concern of How To Worship Allah
subhana tal alone and to be obedient to
him and so on to the book of Allah to
have the concern how to recite it how to
memorize it how to act upon it to the
messenger sallallahu alaihi wasallam to
have the concern and the importance in
your heart to follow him to know his way
to follow the sunah of the prophet and
so on to the leaders of the Muslims to
have the concern of how can you benefit
them how you make Dua to Allah for them
if you want to give them between you and
them according to the of the prophet and
so on and to the masses of the Muslims
how also can you be means for them to
have concern to them how can they be
better in matters of duny and matters of
the Hereafter and so on so as a result
of that and this is how the dean is then
there are certain etiquet that or the
one that gives this advice or the
concern to others has to be upon one of
which is that he has to make sure that
the subject or whatever he is advising
others it really happened and it's true
and it's not something like like a rumor
for example you know and the
prophet when he was told uh about one of
the companions abdah that he would say
that I would pray the night and I would
fast the day and as long as I live uh so
the prophet Alat before given him the
and the advice he asked
him he said you are the one that is
saying this so he says yes I said that
to a prophet of Allah so then the
prophet advised him fast one day a month
he said I can do more fast three days I
can do more Mondays and Thursdays I can
do more fast every other day and he
forbade them from fasting more than that
and and so on so the point here is that
he asked him before he would give him
even the also that the person advising
should make sure that he's not saying
something that he's not upon as he said
to his
people I don't want to to say something
that I'm not upon I want things to be
rectified to the best of my ability even
though uh this is how the would be
accepted but still a Believer should
forbid the evil and enjoying the good
even if he's not upon it because this is
one action versus the action that he's
upon they mention this because a person
when he's not upon what is good this is
one sin and when he does not enjoying
the good and forbid the evil this is
another sin so he falls into two sins
that's part of the evil consequences of
doing sins and evil
actions but this is a way for the to be
accepted it goes from the heart to the
heart the same thing the sincerity and
this is actually comes from the basic
meanings of the itself you know when
they
say the milk is clean that means it's
been purified so one's sincerity in his
heart that he's truly sincerely seeking
the pleasure of Allah subhana T alone
not seeking to put down anyone or to
look better than others uh so this is
something that is very important for a
Muslim to be upon uh also to be based on
knowledge you know sometimes a person
might give you a but it's not according
to the sunah of the
Prophet so someone given advice to
someone to indulge into a or innovation
in the de because he thinks that this is
the dean of Allah so this is what it's
supposed to be based on and Allah said
about he said to his
people that I convey the message to you
and I that I have that sincere concern
towards you and I know from Allah that
you do not know cuz he's a messenger of
Allah another etiquette also in that is
to be trustworthy and to be truthful in
one's advice so says to his
people
trustworthy no exaggeration no lying to
the
people as the prophet said if someone
takes your opinion in something that
means he had trusted you to advise him
and to give him the best of your ability
of what you can say something that would
benefit him uh and the same thing with
saying the truth and not to compromise
the dean of Allah subhana t as a result
of that as the prophet
said one of the rights of your brother
that if he seek your and your advice
then be sincere in your and do the best
you can in this do not deceive him do
not hide the truth truth from him
because he might not be happy or he
might get upset as a result of this also
one of the eates not to uh disclose the
matter in front of everyone and to
humiliate the one that you're advising
but rather to do it secretly that's why
he said whoever advises and AD admonish
his brother secretly he had he he
fulfilled the and adorned him and
whoever does this openly in front of
everyone he had just made a to him he
you know disclosed his Affairs and
humiliated him so this is something to
stay away from and the even would
compile books in in this
subject because the believer his goal is
not to defame people or to put down
people or to be victorious because I
look better than him because I exposed
his mistakes but rather he wants the
best that's why he would conceal and he
would advise and and the opposite of the
believer the fed the wicked one he wants
to do evil and he want to spread
corruption on the face of Earth uh also
one of the things is uh not to delay the
you know but rather to do it as as soon
as a person can for the benefit of it
you know when a man came from the other
Town other side of the town to
Mam and he said that the people are
plotting against you to kill you after
he killed the man
so he came from the other side of the
town quickly so that he get to advise M
Alam before it's too late to realize the
level also of the subject that you're or
the person or the thing that you're
giving the concern to making the to so
for example the prophet when he sent his
letter the king of the Romans he
said from Muhammad to the the great one
of the Romans he did not just say to he
did not say the disbeliever for example
this is in the context of Da inviting
him to Allah subhana tala and
acknowledging his status among his
people gentleness uh leniency Allah
subhana T ordered M to go to the one
that claims to be the lord of the and he
said to him and and his brother har to
go
to say to him a soft speech maybe he
will be reminded or he fears Allah subh
so such a great way of learning how to
be gentle and lenient in one's advice
also to choose the right words not to
make a long speech as a result of this
you know and to make it precise and to
the point like many examples of the
prophet he would say to a man don't get
angry and that's the end of it he would
say
to late what a great man is Abdullah if
he would make the night prayer you know
sometimes you start with prayer praising
the person as a way to protect him from
The Evil Within his own self you say
mallah you're such a great person you're
making Salah I see you all the time
making Salah in the Masjid and then you
give them the advice maybe he's doing
something wrong that you want to advise
him have to be patient also as a result
of the reply that you might
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get and this is always the case with
enjoying good and forbidding evil be
patient you did it for the sake of Allah
so don't revenge for your own self don't
get angry because of your own sake if
someone says mind your own business you
know look at you first you know then
calm down it's it's about being done for
the sake of Allah and to be warned
against looking down upon the one that
you're
given that you're better than him you
know as the prophet
said muslim it's sufficient evil for a
person to
belittle his Muslim brother he thinks
that he's better than him and as we said
to make that to conceal the mistakes of
others
andl you get to know something bad about
your brother so you go advise him but
you don't disclose the matter to others
you make it secret and for the benefit
of what the good comes as a result of
this this is for the one that gives the
As for the one that receives the we have
to accept right we have to seek even
from those who have knowledge those who
have wisdom you know and the prophet
would do that by the command of
Allah make ask their opinions and and he
the and he's someone that Allah you know
made them he was inspired and he
received that at the time of the prophet
he did not say I'm inspired by Allah
that means no one is to be even
consulted in any of the Affairs but
rather he would make the the the the the
the knowledgeable ones the people of the
and his people of MH and he would
whether they're young and old and one of
them was abdah abas and he was a young
child to ask their opinions and so on to
accept the and to be in haste to do it
as we talked about the man that came to
M and he told him then he left
immediately and not to be arrogant and
not to think that we know better but
rather to Humble oneself if a person is
advised to love the one that would give
you the why because why would he do such
a thing you know usually those who they
don't give the people like them more
which is supposed to be the opposite
know if it's a friend that doesn't
correct his friend what's the goodness
of such a friendship so as even when he
said to his
people you don't like those who would
advise you so we have to exert ourselves
to uh to like those who would give us
advice to acknowledge their virtue to
praise them to make Dua to Allah
say to them for advising me because he
did a he did a great favor to you even
if you think that he's wrong but at
least he said something to you maybe you
can act according to what he said if
someone says to you fear Allah we all
need that we all in need to fear Allah
subhana wa tala and if you don't find
anything to reward them make Dua to
Allah subhana tala for them this is a
serious matter and its etiquet and it
shows the humbleness of the heart and
whoever does not accept the he's insane
because we are people that bound to make
mistakes and a Believer is a committer
to his brother so goes both ways a
person would advise others people would
advise him it doesn't matter whether you
are a person of knowledge or someone
less or whatever people should help one
another to achieve these types of
beautiful means and etiquet towards one
another continue in with more of the
manners next time
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