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But fordul.
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We move on after finishing the chapters
related to transactions
which means that now we're rich. We buy
and sell and lease and do all kind of
transactions. We've got money. When we
have money,
we move on to satisfying one of the
natural desires and that is marriage.
And marriage is something that Islam
highly promotes.
There would not be a society
that is whole without marriage. And this
is the way of our prophetatam.
And in order to
follow his footsteps, we are in great
need to learn
the rules
governing this beautiful form of
worship.
So what's the definition of marriage or
nikah? Linguistically
nikah means to
embrace and to intermingle. So when you
go to a garden and the branches are
intermingled and interwoven that would
be something linguistically similar to
nikah. However, when we come to the
Islamic terminology, it's a contract
like any other contract where there is
hijab and kabul proposal and acceptance
conditions and pillars and the whole
nine yards.
The purpose of this contract is to
enable the participants
that is the spouses to enjoy intimacy
with one another in a halal manner.
Marriage is prescribed mentioned in the
Quran clearly in many places
and the rulings governing in governing
it is also mentioned in the Sunnah and
the scholars had their consensus upon
it. Allahel says in surah chapter 4,
then marry those that please you of
other women two or three or four. And
the prophet sallallahu alaihi wasallam
encouraged the youngsters the youth when
he said, "Oh young men, whoever among
you is able to uh u afford it, then he
should get married."
So what about those who are financially
unable? The prophet said if this is the
case then they should fast because it
will be a shield for him those who
cannot get married.
And the prophet said that
when he heard of three of his companions
pledging that one of them would never
sleep at night and he would pray all
night long. The other one pledged not to
marry women or enjoy women. The third
one pledged not to um break his fast to
fast the whole year. The prophet was
angered by that and he addressed the
companions by correcting their
misconception and he said and I marry
women. Whoever turns away from my sunnah
is not one of me.
May Allah have mercy on soul his soul
said the consensus of all scholars that
it is a legitimate thing. It is a
prescribed thing to get married.
Now
marrying
differs from one individual to the
other.
Someone who has a chronic illness that
prevents him from fulfilling the rights
of his spouse or her spouse
and does not disclose this to the
spouse.
Marrying is haram.
Example, someone who has HIV virus
positive
and he goes and proposes to a woman
without disclosing that he has this
illness,
it is prohibited for him to marry her.
He has to give them a heads up before
proceeding in this. Also,
marrying is permissible.
It's not mandatory. But when a person
knows of himself that if he does not get
married,
he's going to fall into fornication and
he's going to commit haram.
Then getting married for him becomes
mandatory.
And it is highly recommended if a person
has huge desire but knows himself that
he will not fall into haram, it becomes
highly desired but not mandatory with
the grace of Allah.
What's the justification? What's the
wisdom of making marriage prescribed? We
could go on till fajger time. discussing
the benefits, the beauty
and the favors and blessing of Allah
upon us behind marriage.
What comes on top of the list is the
sustainability of the human race.
If you go to Europe
and I think if you go to Japan as well
people they are so engaged in work and
in pursuing their own desires that they
don't want children
and so many people celebrities
especially
unfortunately
I don't know how they become celebrities
to the Muslims this is the biggest
problem but we've we hear of celebrities
ities
having an affair with their girlfriends
for 10, 15 years, having children and
not marrying.
Still
also
to increase the number of
the population.
The prophet said wasallam,
"Marry a fertile woman who would give
you children because on the day of
judgment I'll boast other prophets and
messengers with the number of my
followers."
With marriage,
an individual can lower his gaze,
protect his chesty because he has a
halal
thing for him that would prevent him
from going to haram. And you could talk
endlessly about the tranquility, the
peace, the love, the compassion between
the spouses that without marriage would
not be possible to have.
Now
when you want to marry someone,
you have to choose and you have to
choose wisely. So when a man wants to
marry a woman, he has to choose a
religious woman.
The prophet said,
"A woman may be married for four things.
For her wealth, for her social status,
for her beauty, and for her religious
commitment." The prophet went on to
sayam choose the one with the religious
who is religiously committed may your
hands be rubbed with dust meaning may
you prosper because if you don't then
your hands are rubbed in dust and you
will have no prosperity none whatsoever.
There's no problem in having someone
who's religiously committed and
beautiful and rich and from a good
family.
Also, it is recommended for a man to
marry a virgin, someone who was not
married before.
And the prophet sallallahu alaihi
wasallam said this to Jabar and we've
mentioned this in a previous class.
Jabber married
someone who was previously married
whether a divorcee or a widow. And when
the prophet asked him why
why did you not marry a virgin so that
you could play with her and she could
play with you. Jab explained that when
my father sah when my father may Allah
be pleased with him, may Allah be
pleased with him was martyed, he left a
number of sisters and they were young
and I did not want to bring another
naive
inexperienced
wife to them. So I chose that woman who
was uh uh someone
uh wise
when choosing a husband. Of course the
one who chooses usually is the guardian
but the woman marrying
has a huge say in it. I as a father may
choose someone who I think would be a
good husband to my daughter. He's rich.
He's powerful. He's uh he has authority.
My daughter should be wise enough to
know that this is a man who she is going
to live with for the rest of her life,
not her father. So she has to know that
she's the one who's going to be stuck
with him. The prophet said in an
authentic hadith, "If there comes to you
one with whose religious commitment and
character you are pleased, then give
your daughter to him in marriage. If you
do not do that, there will be fitna in
the land and widespread mischief."
So the prophet is highlighting to us
not only the religious commitment but
also his character.
So many times we have good practicing
brothers, long beards, short throes
praying in the masid but the character
is trash.
They're rude. They're stingy.
They lie. No, you should not take this
man.
And sometimes they are the best of
character, kind and compassionate and
kind, friendly and generous, but they
don't pray. Again, this is not
permissible.
Sometimes
they may have both the religious
commitment and the good character, but
they don't have a degree. They don't
have a job. I wouldn't encourage a woman
to throw herself
under the bus for such a person. So
there has to be a form of balance that a
household is built is built on so that
the marriage would be sustainable and
ongoing.
Muhammad.
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