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and welcome back.
My dear students, welcome to the 12th
session in the fourth level of the
prophetic noble a hadith. And today
inshallah we'll study together hadith
number 11 which is narrated by Abu
may Allah be pleased with him who said
that a man said to the messenger of
Allah peace be upon him once advice me.
So the messenger of Allah peace be upon
him said
don't get angry. So the man repeated the
request several times advise me. Every
time the prophet sallallahu alaihi
wasallam would answer him the same.
Don't become angry don't get angry and
so on. The hadith is narrated by Abu and
it is collected by Imam Bkari. So we
have a very profound hadith though when
the Sahabah would come to the prophet
sallallahu alaihi wasallam seeking
advices. We know from the a hadith that
the answer and the advices of the
prophet sallallahu alaihi wasallam will
vary depending on the condition of the
questioner and the need of the person
who's asking the question. This time the
messenger of Allah sallallahu alaihi
wasallam knew that this person is in
need for this advice to set right all
his affairs. So that's why every time he
asked him
advise me he said don't get angry don't
get mad and so on and don't get angry
when you look at it you think what do
you mean don't get angry anger is a
psychological condition which a person
is in a state of phase and fury and uh
losing his temper so it is
uncontrollable agree But a person can
avoid that by following the means which
we'll mention shortly inshallah and by
avoiding
putting himself or herself in a position
where they know that they will lose
their temper and also by knowing how to
control their anger if they happen to
get angry according to the beautiful
advices of the prophet sallallahu alaihi
wasallam whether in this hadith or in
other hadith. So when the prophet
sallallahu alaihi wasallam said to him
several times
that involves two important uh matters
in order not to get angry. The first is
the instruction to take the appropriate
measures
in order to avoid what will lead you to
anger. I know what angers me avoid it
block the means. Try to equip yourself
with the beautiful traits of being
patient, forbearing by remembering the
word of Allah, the almighty which he
promised. uh those who be patient and
keep in mind that the messenger of Allah
sallallahu alaihi wasallam also said
which means even if you have this bad
trait of having a short timber or losing
your timber f uh uh quickly and getting
angry fast
that by practicing patience you can
achieve it. The second matter is in case
that you get angry, you need to train
yourself as what you should do in order
not to act upon your anger such as
zipping of your mouth, seek a refuge of
Allah, changing your position, avoid
using your hand. Avoid acting upon your
anger. This is in brief the explanation
of the hadith. And uh when we come to
study the lessons that we learn from the
hadith, it will elaborate further uh on
those means and so on. But it is very
important to understand that brothers
and sisters, not all anger is uh
dispraised. Some anger is praiseworthy.
Praiseworthy. How could anger be
praiseworthy? Well, anger is
praiseworthy in case that it is for the
sake of Allah. When you see somebody's
violating the boundaries and the
limitations of Allah, somebody is
committing haram or doing it in public,
you're not you're not supposed to be
numb. You're not supposed to be, you
know, uh without feeling and say is none
of my business. Everyone is free to do
whatever they want to do. When you see
on the news and oppression that is
happening anywhere, anywhere on uh on
earth uh you know getting angry is a
very natural human reaction. So this is
praiseworthy especially when you see any
of the of Allah being violated and the
blamew worthy anger which is an anger
for the wrong reasons or for prejudice
or for ego or for personal reasons
narrated that
never hit anyone with his hand whether a
woman or a child or a servant only on
the battlefield whenever he is fighting
Okay. And she also said that the prophet
sallallahu alaihi wasallam
which means he never took revenge for
personal reasons. He would only get
angry and take revenge whenever any of
the of Allah had been violated only for
the sake of Allah subhanana wa ta'ala
for personal reason. He was forbearing
he was forgiving he was pardoning and so
on.
So the type of anger which is blamew
worthy if the person will act upon his
anger for personal reasons which may
lead to divorce may lead to hurting
people physically morally or even taking
the lives. You know that there is a
story where a man when the prophet
sallallahu alaihi wasallam was sitting a
man brought another man leading him with
a strap.
So the prophet sallallahu alaihi
wasallam said what is the matter with
you? He said oh prophet of Allah this
person killed my brother. So su alaihi
wasallam asked him did you really kill
him? And he admitted. So the messenger
of Allah peace be upon him said why and
how did you kill him? He said well we
were doing some business. Basically,
they were out and they were knocking uh
some leaves down from the tree and he
insulted him and he reacted. So, he
grabbed an axe and he hit him with the
axe on his head and he died immediately.
Oh my goodness. If the person happened
to think about the outcome, the severe
outcome
of acting upon his or her anger, they
would most definitely avoid it from the
beginning. So this is a very important
mean and method of trying to not get
angry by realizing that hey when I get
angry I lose it. I don't know what I'm
saying. I don't know what I'm doing. I
may misbehave. In this case, let's avoid
getting angry. Subhan Allah. The worst
enemy to man is not only Shaitan or the
woly temptation himself. The inner
desire and anger will ignite this inner
desire of feeling superior of taking
revenge of proving yourself. May Allah
subhanahu wa ta'ala protect us against
that. What we learn from this hadith?
The keenness of the companions of the
prophet sallallahu alaihi wasallam to
learn not only for the purpose of
learning but they would come ask the
prophet sallallahu alaihi wasallam. Oh
prophet of Allah what is the best deed?
What is the most beloved act to Allah?
Who is the dearest person to Allah? Why?
In order to act upon the following
advices of the prophet sallallahu alaihi
wasallam not just to learn and that's
it. Also the prohibition on of anger is
one of the beautiful features of Islam
which forbids all bad manners and all
good manners are enjoined in Islam. As
we said before I have been sent
exclusively to perfect good manners. Uh
that is in the sound hadith that the
prophet sallallahu alaihi wasallam said
so. So now do you think that this guy
just understood what most people would
understand from the prophet sallallahu
alaihi wasallam do get angry and that's
it? No. Don't don't put yourself in a
position where you know that you will
get angry and if it happens prepare
yourself as how to react properly
appropriately and avoid any
inappropriate reaction upon getting
angry. There are several ways to treat
anger and rid oneself of it and its
negative effects such as number one it's
in the Quran in chapter number 41 inah
chapter number 7 verse number 200
whenever evil suggestion whispers comes
to you from Satan then seek refuge on
Allah Some people belittle that but in
fact saying
is the greatest help in this regard.
Okay. So be uh vigilant that when Allah
gives us an advice in the Quran act upon
it with full belief that it does help
and it is very useful and very
effective. Keeping quiet. Keeping quiet
is not a sign of weakness. He said
sallallahu alaihi wasallam if one of you
becomes angry keep quiet in a sound
hadith changing the position. If you're
sitting you stand up. If you're in the
room go to the hallway. Go leave. Go
outside. Come back later when your wife
calms down. And when you calm down
because as long as you're both angry and
confronting each other. And she says,
"If you're a man, divorce me." Some
people will not only divorce their
wives, they would even slap her or even
uh take their lives because they're
aggravated. What happens if you leave
momentarily? If you leave immediately
and come back later, things will calm
down and will cool off and we would have
avoided a lot of danger by the grace of
Allah. The messenger of Allah sallallahu
alaihi wasallam said if one of you
becomes angry or gets mad let him if
he's standing to sit down and if he's
sitting let him stand up and if he's
sitting recline uh uh if his anger uh
continues u then the person should
actually change their position leave you
made you made woodoo because woodoo is
from water And nothing puts out water
fire which shaitan is created from
better than water. Okay. And you're
still angry. Leave for now. He can come
back later.
Uh as also the prophet sallallah.aihi
wasallam said uh don't get angry. Do not
act upon your anger.
remembering
their word which Allah subhana ta has
prepared for those who have the ability
to get angry and act upon their anger
but they suppress their anger in a
beautiful verse or verses actually in
surah alan chapter number three the two
consecutive verses 133 and 134 when
Allah the Almighty said be quick you all
together towards forgiveness from your
lord and gardens as wide as the heavens
and the earth
Who will be eligible for such heaven
among their traits?
And those who suppress their anger and
those who pardon people and Allah loves
the good doers. May Allah make us among
them. remembering also the virtue of
forbearance and forgiving others while
being capable to take revenge. In surah
uh Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala said in
verse number 37 the meaning of this
verse is and those who avoid the major
sins and immoralities and when they get
angry they pardon and forgive. Finally,
brothers and sisters, recognizing the
standard of true strength
said,
"Some people think that if I prove
myself immediately, then people would
think I'm strong." No, the true strength
is to control yourself at the time of
anger and not to act upon it. It is not
by overcoming people by uh beating them
or wrestling against others. Rather, if
you're capable to control yourself and
not act upon your anger, that's a sign
of being a strong man. May Allah guide
us to what is best. Until next time.
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