Kind: captions Language: en I'm now personally taking a step into building a startup first time hoping to change the world of course there are thousands maybe more maybe millions of other first-time entrepreneurs like me what advice you've gone to this process he's talked about the suffering the emotional turmoil it all my entail what advice do you have for those people taking that step I I'd say it's a rough ride and you have to be psychologically prepared for things going wrong with frequency you have to be prepared to be put in situations where you're being asked to solve problems you didn't even know those problems existed you know for example renting space it's it's not really a problem unless you've never done it you have no idea where the lease looks like right you don't even know the relevant rent and you know in a market so everything is new everything has to be learned what what you realize is that it's good to have other people with you who've had some experience in areas where you don't know what you're doing unfortunately an entrepreneur starting doesn't know much of anything so everything is is something new yeah and I think it's important not to be alone because it's sort of overwhelming and you need somebody to talk to other than a spouse or a loved one because even they get bored with your problems and and so you know getting a group you know if you look at Alibaba you know Chacma was telling me they went you know they basically were like a financial death's door at least twice and you know the fact that there it wasn't just Jack I mean people think it is because of you know he became the you know the sort of public face and the driver but but a group of people who can give advice share situations to talk about that's really important and that's not just referring to the small details like renting space no it's also the psychological yes Gordon yeah and you know because most entrepreneurs at some point question what they're doing because it's not going so well or they're screwing it up and they don't know how to unscrew it up because we're all learning and it's hard to be learning you know when they're like twenty five variables going on if you you know if you're missing four big ones you can really make a mess and so the ability to to in effect have either an outsider who's really smart that you can rely on for certain type of things or other people who are working with you on a daily basis it's most people who haven't had experience believe in the myth of the one person one great person you know makes outcomes creates outcomes that are positive most of us it's not like that if you look back over a lot of the big successful tech companies it's not typically one person it you know it's and you will know these stories better than I do because it's your world not mine but even I know that almost every one of them had two people I mean if you look at Google you know that's what they had and then that was the same at Microsoft at the beginning and you know who's the same at Apple it you know people have different skills and and they need to play off of other people so so um you know the the advice that I would give you is make sure you understand that so you don't head off in some direction as a lone wolf and find that either you can't invent all the solutions or you make bad decisions on certain types of things this is a team sport entrepreneur means you're alone in effect and that's the myth but it's mostly a myth yeah I think and you talk about this in your book and I could talk to you about it forever the the harshly self-critical aspect to your personality and to mine as well in the face of failure it's a powerful tool but it's also a burden that's that's very interesting very interesting to walk that line but let me ask on the in terms of people around you in terms of friends in the bigger picture of your own life what do you put the value of love family friendship in the big picture journey of your life well ultimately all journeys are alone it's great to have support and you know when you you you go forward and say your job is to make something work and that's your number one priority and and you're gonna work at it to make it work you know it's like superhuman effort people don't come become successful as part-time workers doesn't work that way and if you're prepared to make that 100 to 120 percent effort you're gonna you're gonna need support and and you're gonna have to people involve with your life who understand that that's really part of your life sometimes you you're involved with somebody and you know they don't really understand that and that's a source of you know sort of conflict and difficulty but if you if you're involved with the right people you know whether it's a dating relationship or you know sort of you know spousal relationship you know you you have to involve them in your life but not burden them with with every you know sort of minor triumph or mistake they they actually get bored with it after a while and and so you have to set up different types of ecosystems you have your home life you have your love life you have children and and that's like the enduring part of what you do and then on the other side you've got the you know sort of unpredictable nature of of this type of work what would I say to people at my firm who were younger usually well everybody's younger but but you know people who have an age where you know they they're just having their first child or maybe they have two children that it's important to make sure they go away with their spouse at least once every two months it's just some lovely place where there are no children no issues sometimes once a month if they're you know sort of energetic and clever I and that escape the craziness of it all yeah and and reaffirm your values as a couple and you have to have fun if you don't have fun with the person you're with and all you're doing is dealing with issues then then that gets pretty old and so you have to protect the fun element of your life together and the way to do that isn't by hanging around the house and and dealing with you know sort of more problems you have to get away and and reinforce and reinvigorate your relationship and whenever I tell one of our younger people about that they sort of look at me in there it's like the scales are falling off of their eyes and they're saying geez you know I hadn't thought about that you know I'm so enmeshed in all these things but that's a great idea and that's something is entrepreneur you also have to do you just can't let relationships slip because you're half overwhelmed you