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the mess you have in your life the
things you are most ashamed of and
embarrassed by that you think are the
most insignificant that disqualify you
the most are probably the very things
that will qualify you to connect with
another human being in your business or
your personal life to change their life
and don't ever underestimate the ripple
effect so if you're listening to this or
watching it stop discounting yourself
stop carrying these bags of your life of
the things you're embarrassed or ashamed
of or that you think are insignificant
that don't amount to anything those are
the things you precious you that could
change another precious human being's
life in a moment where they need you the
most and if you don't believe you're
qualified if you don't believe you can
do it you're going to miss those moments
in your life and your entire existence
here wasn't what it was supposed to
be Ed mlet welcome to the show welcome
back welcome back it's great to be here
man the one I'm looking forward to the
most so good to have you your book is
amazing the power of one more thank you
love it I'm not at all surprised now for
people that haven't read it MH for
people that feel like they're wasting
their time they're not getting the
results they want what is one thing that
they could be doing right now that would
turn things around for them well
actually doing one more so you know we
we always talk you and I both about
self-confidence and the fact that
building self-confidence is the process
of keeping the promises you make to
yourself and if you lack self-confidence
you've got a relationship and reputation
with yourself that's not very favorable
and so the Baseline way to get
self-confidence is you keep the promises
you make to yourself but in life as you
know we don't get like our goal we get
proba 25% of our goals but we ultimately
always get our standards long term you
will get your standards so the question
becomes what's the standard need to be
then and that standard needs to be you
keep the promises you make to yourself
and one more so if you're going to do 30
minutes on the treadmill every day you
don't do 30 minutes you do the 30
minutes you do one more you're going to
make 10 contacts in a day you don't make
10 contacts in a day you do the 10
contacts and you make one more now what
happens is you start stacking up those
one mores you're going to tell your tell
Lisa you love her every day you don't
just tell her that you tell her one more
time every single day so you start
stacking up mathematically all of these
one mores you've just done more so
you're better but you've changed the
standard of your life and you've built
this superhuman type self-confidence
that I don't only do what I say I'm
going to do I do one more than I'm
saying I'm going to do and that's
something almost nobody's willing to do
so I'm going to get things almost
nobody's going to get so that's one
thing initially everybody can do yeah so
you are one of the sweetest guys on
planet Earth like in real life thank you
but also in real life you're one of the
most intense guys which I really respond
to so my journey is an entrepreneur was
toughening up I was super weak as a kid
way whiny like definitely did not push
myself and my parents love them to death
but they didn't know how to push me
either and so I really when I went to
college my mom assumed I was going to
fail because I was so profoundly lazy
and so hearing you in the book talk
about like pushing to the extreme like
you actually use the word extreme
multiple times and that to to expand
your capabilities you have to go into
the extreme talk to me about that
because right now I feel like that's an
incredibly unpopular message it is and
at the same time it is true thank you
and by the way you talked about that on
my show so there's a part of the book
where I talk about extremity expands
capacity until you push something to the
extreme you don't really Stretch Your
Capacity to do it and so for me I
already know you know at this point in
my life we know what we're capable of at
one point so how do we change what we're
capable of and that's with extremity
that's with pushing it to the extreme I
have another chapter in the book where I
call it do one more inconvenience this
is something that if we could train
ourselves to do our entire lives would
change which is that do the inconvenient
or difficult thing in your day or in
your life human nature is to avoid that
you talk you call it being lazy but it's
just to avoid the inconvenient Napoleon
Hill says in Think and Grow Rich which I
love he says on the other type of
temporary pain you are introduced to
your other self and that other self
produces another life so what we have to
change I think to some extent is our
relationship with pain I'm willing to
pursue pain I'm willing to pursue
discomfort and do the inconvenient thing
because on the other side of that I have
extended my capacity I've literally
changed Who I Am by getting on the other
side of that and so for me I am always
trying to find the inconvenient thing to
do because it's not my nature either I
have to build all these habits like you
do because left to my own devices man
I'm Netflix and pizza and Cheetos I
really would be like people say to me
man you just seem so hardcore people
think this about you as well no actually
I'm not and so I've had to develop these
mindsets the strategies in the book The
the ways I think my habits there's a
whole chapter on how to build habits in
the book because I'm not that way I'm
not overly disciplined but I've learned
to sort of change my relationship with
pain even in the gym but even in a given
day you know for me I chase the thing
that's inconvenient because I know on
the other side of that is where all the
stuff lies that I want and so that's you
know this old notion of well you know do
get out of your comfort zone I'm not
talking about that I'm talking about
pursuing the inconvenient in a given day
cuz that's the pathway to your bliss
that's the pathway to your happiness why
is that that's super counterintuitive
well it's the pathway to your bliss and
your happiness because when we're doing
things that aren't convenient on a very
regular basis there's a part of our
spirit I believe in our soul that knows
we were born to do something great that
knows we were born to grow and when we
begin to settle in our lives it's like I
had a conversation this morning with a
friend of mine who's a parent they're
having some parenting issues and they're
like well yeah you grew up with an
alcoholic dad so that was child neglect
and my parents got divorced that was
child neglect but I'm not neglecting my
kids this is just this morning really
good friend of mine I said I think you
should rethink that and I said there's
an Insidious form of neglecting your
children and she goes well what is it
and I said it's not pursuing your
potential and your dreams that's a form
of neglect of your children you're
installing the software in them that
it's okay to settle that it's because
they're watching you because they're
watching you and almost everything in
life is caught not taught you don't
teach teach lessons to people they catch
lessons from you and so you're
neglecting that child when you're not
pursuing your potential your bliss or
Andor your dreams in your life that's a
form of neglect so if it's neglecting a
child when we do it it's a form of self-
neglect when we do it to ourselves and
so that's why it's counterintuitive not
to do inconvenient things but the reason
it's the pathway to Bliss and happiness
is intuitively we know we're neglecting
our spirit we know we're neglecting our
soul we're no we neglecting our
potential when we're not chasing it and
there's no way that we can
simultaneously be Blissful and at the
same time know that we're somehow
treating ourselves less than we're
worthy of hello my friend you know that
I believe success requires you to see
failure as the ultimate learning tool
success requires you to be disciplined
and gritty and to never ever quit on
your dreams I say all of that because
one thing is certain the road to
achieving your goal is not smooth or
linear I wish it was but it's not it's
going to be bumpy sometimes scary some
days you'll take two steps forward and
slide 10 steps back and that's why
success also requires you to know how to
pull yourself out of a rut and get
unstuck fast life is short you can't be
messing around with your goals you've
got to make progress every single day so
I've pulled a class from Impact Theory
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inside I have a growing hypothesis I'm
super curious so when I hear people like
you talk about this stuff I'm going to
say 99 times out of 100 there's been a
physical transformation that they've
gone through obviously your physique is
insane I know what it would take to
achieve your physique I don't have your
physique not because I don't want it
because I don't want to put that level
of energy into it I'm honest with myself
about that but I have transformed my
physique and so I know what that takes
and that I didn't think a lot about it
at the time but that coincided with me
getting better at being an entrepreneur
because I realized I saw what you were
saying that as I did one more as I
pushed myself as I did the things that
were inconvenient as I reached for the
Extreme as I began to model myself after
something other people said was crazy
right oh that guy's too big oh what are
you doing that's crazy but I really got
obsessed with it yes and in doing that
and going to the gym and pushing myself
and being uncomfortable I remember one
time getting trapped under a weight and
I was like [ __ ] I don't how am I going
to get out of this and by being in those
situations over and over and over you
begin to realize oh my God like I
actually change as a result of this
which let believe that you can change
your mind in the same way yes how
important do you think it is for people
to deal with the body to to push
themselves have a transformation there
wow brother I love you because we think
so similarly I Catalyst for change for
me all my life has been in my body and
the reason for that is it's something
that I actually have some measure of
control over I can't control the
external result I can't control every
time how someone's going to respond to
me what the Market's doing whatever it
might be I can control like you and I
were talking off camera what I'm putting
in here what I'm putting in this pie
hole every day I can control my amount
of hydration I can control the training
in my life and so for me the Catalyst
for change frankly I was 221 PBS big and
not fat and um but I knew the book was
coming out know was writing the book and
the Catalyst for me to get in the most
Peak State I could do is to do something
extreme and so the extreme thing I did
is I said I'm going to weigh 180 pounds
in 90 days who and I I got down to 177
and I did that through you know
intermittent fasting caloric restriction
changing my cardio but it was an extreme
you were working on the well I was and
the reason I did it is I knew that if I
could transform the internal parts of me
that the external results I was going to
produce would be that much more
extraordinary and so I'm the chills yeah
well by the way and you've done it as
well it's not like I'm going to do this
every single you know month of my life
or even every single year of my life but
to your point if you're sitting there
and you're thinking I can't change
things it's like I don't have the
capital I don't have the relationships I
don't have the this or the that you do
have a body and you can change that
there's things you can do to move it
differently treat it differently
potentially be more more kind to it one
thing I'm doing I'm 51 years old man
I've never stretched in my life I've
never done yoga in my life these joints
and tendons are sick of me beating them
up and so one of the reasons I got a
little lighter a little smaller little
bit less taxing on it and I'm giving
myself the gift of great stretching you
know great yoga I'm doing massage now
I'm doing things to be kinder to my body
as well and this may sound really hokey
and cheesy I find myself this is a
strange thing to word it but I find
myself being a little more gentle with
myself when I'm so aggressive in the gym
all the time you know there's a there's
a transfer of that even in my life where
I'm so aggressive and intense on myself
which I love that part of me but like
I've had 51 years of that and so now I'm
like you know what I'm being a little
more kind to my body a little bit more
gentle with it and I find myself you
know when I give a speech usually I'll
beat myself up I could have done you do
the same thing I should have done this I
should have done that leave a meeting
leave a podcast why didn't you say this
and I've just beat myself up all my life
just like I do in the gym recently I
find as I treat my body differently I'm
treating me differently I'm like that's
okay bro you got the next one that
wasn't so bad I'm sure you still made a
difference I've never said those words
to myself in my life because I've always
thought if I let go of this beating
myself up that's part of my recipe part
of my formula the truth is I've probably
been successful in spite of the way I've
treated myself not because of it that's
interesting I don't know that I agree
and as you're describing that I'm so
intrigued how you're going to answer
this question do you think that you can
do that now because you have pushed
yourself so far so hard or do you wish
that you had gone back and done things
the way you're doing them now back then
I wish I had done both I wish I've had
the extremity part of my life where I'm
pushing myself to that point of past
what I think I'm capable of but then I
also wish that I wasn't so hard on
myself man like I've spent a lot of
years of my life I've never really said
this before I've spent a lot of years of
my life I think at my own expense makes
me emotional to say it I don't even know
why where that's coming from at my own
expense in the service of other people
and I think I had this
delusion that I had to be almost
suffering in order to produce Bliss for
other people and some of that software
was probably installed to me when I was
young with my dad being an alcoholic
when I was young and so no brother I
know I could have pushed myself and been
one intense beast and still been a
little bit more kind to myself there's a
more beautiful and elegant way to get to
the results that I wanted I totally know
what you're saying that there's
different seasons of your life and it's
easy to say when you got a couple
hundred mil in the bank and all that
other stuff like you know what I'm on a
stretch now I'm going to get a mage it's
a little bit different than that so one
I think your Insight about what you
learn to do to be The Peacemaker in your
family to read your dad to figure out
where he was and that you were still so
generous to him as well as to the rest
of your family to take his hand to and
you talk about this in the book so I
highly encourage people to read it but
you would take his hand and try to shift
his mood and not really trained you to
to be somebody that could read people
and help change their state which I
think is incredible but where the way
that I see it is that you've
earned you've earned the right and I'm
going to back up in a second but you've
earned the right to get to that position
because you know you can fall back on
discipline the habits all that stuff
where because what I'm thinking is okay
if I'm 24 and I'm encountering Ed mlet
for the first time and I I have this
glimmer of like ooh maybe I can do
something more with my life that guy
really does and this is projecting
because this is where I was but that guy
probably really does need to go hard
first yeah and he needs first to learn
to be tough to be a badass like for me
to transform my physique I had to
imagine my wife being physically
assaulted it was the only way I could
show up and put in the work got leverage
on yourself exactly yep and if somebody
had been at that moment telling me no no
no you need to be kinder gentler it's
like on balance you're right and if
you're talking to me when I'm in my
50s 100% but in the beginning I wouldn't
have been able to be so nuanced and so I
guess what I'm saying is with what
you've done and accomplished you
understand the Nuance you understand how
important it is to do all of that and to
sacrifice yourself doesn't make sense I
think you're right I I think we agree so
I think you have to know yourself what's
your default place my default position
has been all my life to try to earn
things I I conflated when I was young
only time I got love from my dad is if I
achieved something if I did something if
I dad I got an A dad I hit a home run
you know Dad I won the spelling beat you
know so I conflated achievement and
pushing myself with love so I know me I
know that part of me is sort of my
default place to go my default place is
to do this I think you have to know
yourself I think if your default is to
not do those things then yeah giving
yourself a break and being Kindler and
gentler is the absolute worst thing that
you could do to yourself in my case man
it's been a lifetime I was never a child
I was never a little boy that 5-year-old
I was literally not a child my dad would
you know this from the book 5 years old
I got two skills in life man one is I
can communicate the other one is I can
be president read people the president
read people's really simple I had three
sisters and a mom and when my dad would
walk through that front door at 5 years
old this beautiful little boy that I was
I would have to look up at this man and
quickly figure out was he drunk or sober
what was his body language like how was
he walking was his tie tie was he
slurring his words and if it was drunk
dad sisters need to get upstairs mom go
take a shower and then the man of the
house me at that time would take over
and like you said grab my dad's hand and
change his State dad I hit a home run
today dad I got a 96 on my spelling test
and so I never afforded myself or was
afforded to be a boy in my life to ever
really have a bunch of peace or Bliss in
that life and my dad got sober and you
know that and he was my best friend but
that part of my life was taken from me I
never had it so I don't have to be I
don't have to to worry about Ed melet's
you know drive or ambition or any of
those other things I got to worry about
this dude hurting himself you know
metaphorically but actually
theoretically too in any possible way
and so you just got to know yourself if
your default is you'll cool it then you
know what the worst thing you could do
is give yourself a break you're wired
like me and you beat yourself to a pulp
all the time and you think you can do
that and there's some point in your life
you'll Fray and there's just a part of
your brain man there's just there's
there's the neural parts of our brain
are telling us man can you give me a
little dopamine can you give me a little
hit of something Blissful can I
celebrate this a little bit can I be a
little bit more kind to myself because
if you don't do that eventually you've
trained your brain that you don't want
to do those things yeah I think Learning
To Love Yourself is critical I always
tell people in my back pocket I have
Detachment at all times like a Buddhist
style Detachment yeah because at the end
of the day the only thing that matters
is how you feel about yourself when
you're by yourself success money all
those things ultimately are irrelevant
if you hate yourself and you're Rich
you're still going to have a terrible
life you got it so I think that's really
important there's an idea that was
introduced to me by Jordan Peterson that
blew me away in fact the first time it
got teased was Frost zahabi do you know
him okay so for people that don't know
he trained um George St Pierre he's an
incredible MMA guy and I had the very
good fortune of meeting him interviewing
him and actually rolling jiujitsu with
him the one and only time I've ever done
Jiu-Jitsu was with him was [ __ ]
insane one really really cool experience
and he was saying this idea that Jordan
Peterson ended up putting really
concrete words around which is that he
wanted to um God how did he put it like
basically I want to be able to choose
kindness and he said to choose kindness
I have to be capable of great violence
because if somebody comes and tries to
push me around I can be kind because I
know I can defeat love it and so Jordan
Peterson was like struggling with this
idea of the meek shall inherit the earth
which is a man of Faith you understand
very well in fact you say in the book if
I'm not mistaken
and Jordan is like I've always struggled
with that idea because most of us
interpret Meek as weak and he said to to
the idea of the weak are going to
inherit the earth he's like nothing
tells me that that is true and in fact
the the weak get pushed around and he
said but he looked up a more ancient
interpretation of the word meek and it
meant to be capable of extraordinary
violence but to keep your sword sheathed
love it and he said that person really
will inherit the Earth because they can
defend themselves and they're choosing
kindness compassion whatever but it they
actually have the choice between I could
fight and win or I can diffuse the
situation because I know that I'm
capable that if it breaks down it can go
to that place brother see you're so
brilliant when you introduced me you
could have said a lot of different
things about me but the thing that you
said was something along the lines of my
kindness and my genuiness and the only
reason that that stands out with me with
people I don't know that I'm more kind
or gentle than the average person that
only stands out because I do appear to
be so strong right I do have those
features physically and and you are
actually intense right and I'm actually
a super intense dude and so you're so
right it's the by the way the things I
love about human beings are their
contrast are their complexities and so I
always say all the time I I have my best
friends are like you they have
tremendous amounts of self-confidence
with this un unbelievable abundance of
humility and they know how to tow the
Nuance of those two things they somehow
tow that line beautifully we all have
friends that are tremendously
self-confident have no humility they're
not curious they're not growing they're
probably going to burn out they're
probably going to have to make an ego
mistake that's going to hurt them do you
think humility works so well well
humility keeps me curious humility keeps
me connected lack of humility breaks a
connection with another person lack of
humility causes you to not want to learn
and grow like you identify yourself as a
learner only somebody with a tremendous
amount of humility who knows they don't
know everything would want to be a
learner and so the very things that I
think cause me to grow and expand are
the very things that keep me humble
people ask me often now that you're 51
you wrote this book there's all these
things in there that you know what have
you learned is you're 51 and truly what
I've learned more than anything is what
I don't know that the more the older I
get I know I realize how little I do
know I can write a book that's 280 pages
and pretty much everything I know is in
that book but the vast majority of
things of life I don't know and so I
don't also want to have friends that
just have humility that have no
self-confidence because then you're
dragging them through life all the time
they're the energy drainers of your life
that humble kind friend of yours who
never believes in themselves never does
anything you're always trying to fill
them up I don't want to be around them
all the time either I want people that
have both of those things because I
think they're the most successful and
Blissful people at the same time and
there's a really cool quote about that
as the island of my knowledge grows so
does the shore of my ignorance oh God
that's beautiful right yeah
it's it is weird how you can really feel
like you know virtually everything when
you're young which is what makes
teenagers so brutal right and then as
you get older you're like whoa I've been
kicked in the face so many times I
remember the first time somebody said I
had humility I was taking back because
to me it didn't feel like humility it
felt like self-evidently recognizing
what is true like I've just failed way
more than I've succeeded too and so
you're just like God I'm not trying to
be humble I am just so paranoid that I
don't have something right because so
often I thought I was right only to
realize whoa like I was completely
misjudging this situation that's for
btim how I feel and I got to tell you
one of my favorite things to hear from a
friend or even a business partner is I
was wrong I was wrong I've changed my
mind in fact I wish there was more of
that in politics don't you hey that was
me I was wrong and I've changed my mind
man I you'd endear yourself to me so
quickly if you would do that and so
someone who never changes their mind
someone who never acknowledges that
they're wrong about something is someone
that I don't really want to be around
and spend a lot of time with nor would I
want in any leadership position in any
of my businesses and so it's a really
big deal to be able to say that and to
change one's mind is one of the most
profound things you can do I agree why
do you think it's so hard for people I
think they think it's a weakness I
really do and I think you have to have a
tremendous amount of strength and
confidence to actually say that I'm
wrong there's it takes both there's
humility and saying I'm his wrong
there's also confidence I think there's
a third thing that's the most terrifying
and it's why this continues to be a
problem I me know you think about this
you also have to be good yeah like
here's the the scary thing yeah if you
want to succeed in life you talk about
this in the book you talk about Napoleon
Hill Think and Grow Rich that book also
changed my life I have the chills again
I remember where I was when I was
reading that book and it hit me because
he says like in the first whatever 40
pages I've told you the answer like the
whole reason I'm writing this book is on
every single page of this book I was
like what hases he said because I was
like where are we going with this and
the only thing he had said on every page
was if you believe you can you can and
if you think you can't you can't and I
was like oh my God and so yeah but as
you go to Great Lengths in the book to
point out your actions also have to line
up you're never going to be able to
think your way to success I Love
Thinking Grow Rich it's my favorite book
other than my scriptures but I got to be
honest with you you don't just think and
get rich you got to do stuff the
question that becomes what do I need to
think and what what do I need to do
simultaneously or in congruency that
produce the result and that's why I did
the things that I had the things in the
book second chapter as you know and I
know you're huge Matrix fan I like as
I'm writing this chapter this is Tom's
chapter I was like this is the greatest
chapter ever written I love this but one
of the points that I make in the book is
being able to slow things down and get
into bullet time but there's two things
I love about the Matrix one I think
that's an absolute example of the
reticular activating system in the brain
and so you do have to be good but the
question in life becomes listen I
believe you're one Decision One
relationship one meeting one one show
one thought one new emotion potentially
away from changing your entire life I've
proven this in my life so of you and the
question then becomes how do you find
them and this Ras is super powerful in
our brains because it's the mechanism
that filters the entire world to us it
literally reveals to us our reality just
like you just said it reveals our
reality I just bought a Tesla I drove it
here today I like what musk is doing I'm
like I'm going to get one of these
Teslas man every freaking where I go I
see Teslas Now red babe hey there's a
white one there's a plaid three lanes
over other side of the freeway babe
black Tesla just drove by she's like how
in the world do you know this because
it's become important to me and it's now
in my filter it's now a part of my Ras
that's why when you're in a loud room
all the auditory sounds someone doesn't
even say it loud Tom you can hear your
own name in a room because it's become
important to you see the question in
life is can you make your goals your
Ambitions the emotions you want the
thoughts the relationships you need to
become your testas and if they become
your testas things slow down the other
part of the Matrix I love I'll come up
for air is Neo is the one he's the one
and when my wife and I were little I
literally live on the beach now brother
that we used to walk on we were in high
school we were dating and we'd walk in
this beach go babe I'm going to get you
one of these beach houses we're GNA
we're get one of these Beach he goes you
are I go yep and I have no idea how and
I go home I go dad who are these
freaking people who lives there he's
like I don't know who the heck they are
they don't work with me you know and I
figured something out when you find a f
family or a person that's happy and
successful or either one somewhere back
in their lineage they weren't that
family
wasn't and then the one shows up the one
and that one changes that family forever
it changes the way they live the way the
world treats them the way they think
they're the Neo they're the one in their
family and in my family I'm the one I'm
the one I didn't like it I didn't hope
for it I fought for it I fought for it I
did the things in this book to become
the one in my family and if you're
listening to this or watching it why
don't you consider the fact that
potentially maybe you're the one and the
fact that you don't think you are or
that you're not qualified to be the one
or don't have the background or the
skills or the confidence probably makes
you the one because that was me now what
what does the one do what do they
introduce to the family that changes it
so profoundly I think they introduce a
different way of thinking Tom I think
they introduce a belief system that the
world doesn't dictate the terms to our
family anymore more we're going to
dictate the terms to the world and that
we have some measure of control over the
results of Our Lives I think most people
go through their lives thinking they
have no measure of control and I had a
huge breakthrough brother two weeks ago
after I wrote the book and as you know
as I I wrote the book when my dad died I
thought I need to write this book
because my dad taught me all these
profound lessons of one more and I'm the
next to go I don't know if it's this
week or 60 years from now but I'm the
next to go and I woke up about 3:00 in
the morning 3:15 exactly and I woke up
chrisan I said babe wake up and I was in
tears this was just two weeks ago I said
babe someone helped
Daddy I'm 51 bro my dad was sober for 35
years this never occurred to me she goes
what I said someone helped my dad she
goes what do you me someone helped my
dad in his darkest moment of his life
get sober in some coffee shop or quiet
place when my dad was down on his knees
losing his family some precious human
being helped my dad M I don't know who
they are they changed our entire family
Max and Bella's lives are changed
because this person that we don't know
millions of people I've reached because
this person helped my dad she goes
that's amazing I said here's what's more
amazing what qualified them to help my
dad their shame their mess that they
were also a drug addict and alcoholic
this precious Soul the things they're
the most ashamed of that they think
disqualified them the most in life
is the very thing that qualified them to
help my dad in the most important moment
of his life is where their giftedness
their experience their shame their
setbacks is what qualified them to
change my life and my dad's life in this
dark space I've been in personal
development my dad's been sober forever
it never occurred to me the mess you
have in your life the things you are
most ashamed of and embarrassed by that
you think are the most insignificant
that disqualify you the most are
probably the very things that will
qualify you to connect with another
human being in your business or your
personal life to change their life and
don't ever underestimate the ripple
effect they were just helping some man
get sober in some dark space in his life
never knowing the one was his son never
knowing that this whole existence of my
family was changed not just by me being
the one not just by my dad's decision
but by a completely flawed person
remember this think about this person at
some point maybe they were stealing from
their family driving drunk did things
they're completely ashamed of in those
states that was the experience that
qualified them to change my Dad's life
so if you're listening to this or
watching it stop discounting yourself
stop carrying these bags of your life of
the things you're embarrassed or ashamed
of or that you think are insignificant
that don't amount to anything those are
the things you precious you that could
change another precious human being's
life in a moment where they need you the
most and if you don't believe you're
qualified if you don't believe you can
do it you're going to miss those moments
in your life and your entire existence
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people actually listen to you because
people do discount themselves they do
things or have things happen to them
that they're not proud of that they
think Define who they are and they never
allow themselves to bring something
beautiful to the world again which is an
absolute
tragedy so if the one is bringing this
new way of thinking if the person that
thinks they are the most disqualified is
able to channel that and make somebody's
life better how do they turn that into
like something concrete that they can
articulate how do they turn it into a
habit like what is that process of going
from you know Neo waking up and
realizing that he can do something to
actually dodging bullets I think one of
the things is the way that we approach
time this is something that almost no
one talks about anymore so I feel like
you may be behind you may actually be
behind your destiny right now like maybe
you're not on Pace in fact I think most
people watching this listening will say
I am behind on achieving my destiny I'm
not exactly sure what is but I feel like
it's slipping I feel like I'm behind so
you better figure out time differently
and you can bend and manipulate time to
your advantage the most stupid
Antiquated ridiculous concept on planet
Earth today very very well may be that a
day is 24 hours it's so stupid it's the
dumbest thing ever 24-hour days were
contrived when there were no cars there
was no electricity if I wanted to get
you a message I had to write something
down if I could send it on a horseback
hope you get get it that's insane never
mind the internet so it used to take
hours days weeks months years to do can
be done now in a millisecond in the
internet or on our smartphones yet we
measure the time the same way that guy
did that's bananas that is so stupid yet
everybody does it and so I about 25
years ago went I'm not the most talented
I'm not the smartest and I'm really not
and you've had guests on your show with
IQs maybe a 100 points higher than mine
this is the truth I know a couple of
them I had them on my show how in the
world I don't come from from you know a
whole track record of success right I
don't have the perfect upbringing how in
the world am I going to win I got to do
things other people aren't willing to do
which I'm doing that's the one mores and
I got to fix the way I look at time what
would I need to believe about time what
would I need to believe what would the
question be and so my days now are from
6: a.m. to noon that's a day it's 6
hours and in that day some days you just
chill but in that day I'm going to get
the amount of productivity Faith working
out fitness money business you name it
in that day we've all had a morning
where we I got more done this morning I
have in weeks well why can't you do that
every morning so I measure time I've
compressed and condensed time I've bent
it my day is 6 a.m. to noon and I'm not
crazy you're crazy for thinking it takes
24 hours just like some dude in a cave
did 300 years ago that's bananas that
you still think that way and it's unfair
that people have taught you this my
second day starts at noon and goes till
6:00 p.m. that's day two but what the
cool thing is at the end of day one this
clock goes off about noon every day bro
and goes what did I just get done what
didn't I do what do I need to be
accountable for what do I need to double
my effort just like you do at the end of
most days right and then the next day is
600 p.m. to midnight and some of those
are just fun days Sundays I chill right
but some days they're really super
productive what I've done now is I have
changed and manipulated time I now get
21 days a week stacked it up over a
month I'm going to kick your butt stack
it up over a year you're toast stack it
up over five years my entire life is
different than it would have been
otherwise and if you do this for about
90 of your traditional days that you
think are you will come back to me and
go that profoundly impacted my life
here's the other thing that happens the
world responds to you differently when
you value your time like that what is
precious is valuable that's why a
diamond or this watch is way more
expensive than the piece of paper that's
written down there because it's more
scarce when your time when you interact
with the world is slightly more scarce
they respond to you as if you're more
valuable so you get more accountability
mo more productivity more fun more joy
and the world flips its response to you
all of a sudden you become more valuable
and precious to people when your time is
different and you'll get thousands more
days in your life and live a much more
Blissful and happy life than the person
who only gets 24 hours yeah so this is a
concept that I really hope people take
seriously so I'm often asked like how
frequently I evaluate my progress and
I'm like it's probably about every 3
hours and I think people are surprised
to hear that it's not daily it's not
weekly certainly not monthly or yearly
it's like I'm constantly okay was I
productive in this period of time yes
and in the book you reference it if I
remember correctly as like squeezing the
air out of all those gaps where most
people like okay you know if I get this
done in my day then I'm fine and if you
took that and made your day those six
hours suddenly it's like okay I need to
be really efficient what if you took
that day Tom and then combined it with
the power of doing one more that mindset
and then chasing inconvenient things on
top of it in those days and on top of
that sprinkle the little self-love to
make sure that you don't love little
retic activating system where we're
doing repeated visualizations where
we're finding the things in those days
that we need to be able to find uh-oh
you may just change your life you know I
know exactly what happens and you
likened this to Kobe Bryant and walk
people through like so what Tim Grover
has said about like his work ethic and
extra practices and stuff because it's
like I don't know how many times the
successful people have to say the same
things for people to get like oh okay
cool I get where this is going you one
really simple thing is this you need to
get in a bigger hurry if I could just
distill it down to something simple you
need to get in a bigger hurry you're too
casual you're too slow you walk too slow
you talk too slow you think in terms of
too much time and if you would just
speed up the pace man like you know this
when you're around someone like Kobe or
Grover or you or anyone that kind of
vibrates at a frequency that feels like
success energy it's faster they have to
talk faster many of our most favorite
people talk much slower than you and I
do but they're just in a little bit of a
bigger hurry I'll give you a Kobe thing
that's not in the book though that just
for me and you and everyone gets to
listen Kobe was scheduled to do my show
six days after he passed oh God and
deeper than that I was with Kobe the
week before he passed away let me tell
you the story about this because I think
it's pretty profound about the one Moors
b a volleyball tournament our daughters
played volleyball together and um it's
if you have a kid who plays volleyball
you all are going yep I get what that is
these are long days and noisy days so
this thing starts at about 8:00 a.m. all
the dads are there the last match was
10:00 p.m. oh God yeah dude and I'm the
last dad in there except this other guy
in a black sweatsuit with white stripes
on it and he's about 66 and it's Kobe
and we've been around each other many
times at these tournaments we're the
last of the Two Dads left and so the
tournament ends his match was on a
different end of the Court than my
daughter's was something happened I have
no idea why I did this brother I watched
him this day and uh I was on the other
end and I watched him he had his baby in
his left arm this little one and he was
rubbing the back of his daughter that
was playing and literally I went I don't
hug Bella enough look how affectionate
he is it just stood out to me and
because it stood out to me his outward
affection I watched him bro and I
watched Kobe walk out of the gym that
day with this baby and his arm around
his other one and I watched him walk out
and he obviously stood out because he
was so tall and I can picture him right
now Tom walking out of that door for the
last time
six days later he died and I wonder see
if you want to know the power of one
more it's when I take it from you and
you can't have it
anymore I wonder if someone would have
whispered Kobe when he got in the car
the day six more
days how would that week maybe have been
different for him what would he have
said who would he have loved who would
he have reached out to what would have
mattered to him about the Saturday
before Kobe one more
day he's getting on that helicopter Kobe
one more hour see it hits us when I say
that
and there's a whisper happening that you
can't
hear Tom eight more years 18 more
whatever it is there's a whisper we
forget we're going to die Napoleon Hill
says begin with the end in mind what if
you did that with your life what if you
began with the end of your life and mind
and worked it backwards bro my favorite
thing in the world was to golf with my
dad my favorite thing man we both no
good at golf po My Hero in a golf cart
with me for five hours a foot away and
the
conversations watch my dad walk a car do
you know what I would do bro for one
more round of golf with my dad one more
time hey Dad good putt yeah that was a
good one wasn't it he put his arm on me
high five you know what I would do for
that
what would you how would you act if you
started to think about all the elements
of your life like Kobe's last six days
Kobe's one more day Kobe's one more hour
me getting that back with my dad what if
you started to look at the relationships
you have in your life like it was the
last time you had the conversation with
him the last time you get to hold Lisa's
hand and Jesus look into your eyes right
but how much more precious does she
become maybe it's the last podcast the
last interview how much more precious
would it be how much more engaged could
we as engaged as we are that next
meeting that conversation with is it
Gerson over here right that conversation
with him man see when we begin to
distill downs and we realize yeah
there's a power to one more because
they're not promised how many we have
and so that day with Kobe just it just
burned it into my soul man when I
watched him and then to see six days
later he was gone that time with his
family was so precious and so I would
just challenge everybody if you want to
know the power of one more it's when I
take it from you and there's a power and
there's a blessing that you get one more
in your life you're going to get another
chance to talk to Lisa you're going to
get another great dinner with her you're
going to get another show those
listeners have another day to change
their life they have another opportunity
to do one more they have another
opportunity to make their family proud
of them they still have more time they
don't just have one more day probably to
be the one in their family life is
beautiful it's precious and sometimes we
only have an appreciation for it in its
absence sometimes we only have an
appreciation for the power of the one
mors or the people in our lives when we
imagine their absence and so I would
just ask everybody to consider that the
thing about work is that um I think you
should enjoy your work I think there's a
part of that but I think it's this I
agree aggressively with that yeah I
think it's this notion that everything
is separate what do you mean well like I
think people ask me all the time about
well you know I feel like man if I'm
crushing it at work that uh I'm not
going to be as good a dad or if I'm
really a great dad my body's going to
suffer and there's this Limited scarcity
idea that somehow that there's a finite
amount of it to have I just don't buy
into that at all in fact I found in my
life that when I'm crushing it or work
man I'm a lot better in the gym when I'm
crushing in the gym or work I'm a better
dad I come home pumped I come home
engaged I come home excited I'm not
saying there's not fatigue but when I'm
not crushing it at
work what am I not bringing to bear in
my family in terms of energy ideas my
vibrational frequency my ability to give
out information and love I'm cheating my
family when I'm not working and
conversely I think I Rob my work when
I'm not engaged with my family people
ask me well what is changing you I was a
little bit more of an angry intense dude
before I had kids and for me in my case
having children caused me to pause in
the way i' speak to people sometimes I'm
ashamed when I was younger of ways I
spoke to people had someone talked to my
son or daughter the way that I used to
talk to people so me crushing it as a
dad has made me a better businessman me
crushing it as business has certainly
driving out here my my daughter said to
me driving out she goes Daddy I'm taking
the real estate exam today she's 18
she's going to college I'm taking the
real estate exam today and the life
insurance exam on Monday and I'm
thinking that's wonderful plus she's got
finals for school right but what
impressed me about that was that hey
that means my work has transferred over
into me as a father so these things are
interconnected in life when you decide
not to work and you think that's going
to make you better at home or better in
other areas of your life you're
absolutely wrong you're a whole person
and growing the wholeness of you matters
and that's why there's such value in
work work meaning work is not always
just labor work is expansion of oneself
and that's why you're robbing yourself
yeah I also think there's something to
just taking a cynical eye to the world
and feeling like oh if I'm really giving
my everything then somebody is taking
advantage of me my thing is
like if I were working for somebody else
MH when in fact when I did work for
somebody else in my ear 20s I was
completely cynical I was like oh I'm
being taken advantage of and like this
is terrible I'm not getting paid what
I'm owed and then I discovered work
ethic and how far I could push myself
and I discovered one immutable truth I
could get so good that people would be
terrified to lose me there you go and in
fact Kobe has a quote it's even better
which is booze don't block dunks you can
get so good people can't stop you the
greatest players in the world in fact
Scouts were paid an obscene amount of
money to go around the entire Globe to
find people that they could pay millions
of dollars to to stop Kobe Bryant from
scoring a basket during a game and
despite the best athletes on planet
Earth getting paid millions of dollars
to stop him he once scored 81 points in
a single game yeah that's and so my
thing is like who are you pushing back
on you can get so good at something
people can't stop you I tell my kids all
the time I say greatness Rises greatness
is eventually found I have a I won't say
who it is but I have a relative that's
like hey the coach is discriminating
against me man he's goty really favors
these other guys and I said to him the
other day go no he's not he's not
greatness Rises he wants to win
basketball games or he wants to win
baseball games or he wants to win this
the fact of the matter is get great at
something there's such
a there's such a wonderful feeling of
being great at what one does yes that if
I what a terrible way it would be to get
through this Earth have your whole
journey through this Earth and never get
great never get great at what you're
capable of being great at and I would
encourage everybody to pursue that
that's why they listen to your show
watch your show it's why they listen to
mine it's why they read our books
because this pursuit of greatness we do
we have started to create a culture that
I think has an ill-gotten eye towards
success towards progress and maybe some
of that's earned you know maybe some of
the examples in the world about what
financial success looks like hasn't been
the most elegant or beautiful examples
of it but the fact of the matter is that
my experience with successful people
whether that's Financial or not uh I
believe successful people in their work
work are happier people just overall
whether that's a my sister who's a
school people ask me all the time who's
one of the most successful people you
know my sister because I think success
is that when your external life matches
your vision for it whatever that is you
have a vision for your life and you
produce it my sister is blind it's right
she was born a diabetic right she's born
a diabetic you're so you're so connected
and she's a school teacher Christian
School teacher she's amazing at it why
she's in the service of other people
that's the blueprint for her life and
she's using her giftedness in the
service of these people she's kind she a
great teacher she's patient she's 411
she's the same height as the students
wow see her giftedness is just perfect
for what she does she's so successful
deal with because I have to imagine
students use the blindness to mess
around or whatever she knows they're
doing it that could be it would be very
easy to feel victimized how does she
deal with that well because by the way
my sister can see some things she she
just can't drive she can't she she she
she shadows and whatnot too um my sister
though and and here's the other thing
imagine being able that you use used to
be able to see and you've lost it I
think it's one thing to be born blind
it's another thing that you had sight I
mean if an average person just you've
been able to see and you close your eyes
even for 10 minutes and be able to
imagine not able to see it's a really
traumatic experience what my sister does
it's really interesting she uses humor
really really well so she takes it from
you before you can give it to her and
when someone is
self-deprecating self-deprecation is a
great form to diffuse hate to diffuse
pain and so she's learned to really use
humor about it and almost poke fun at
herself to where the students don't do
that and you do it very well by the way
you're self-deprecating all the time be
easy for you to kind of you know your
homes your success your show your wealth
your intellect is extremely high you are
a very self-deprecating dude so that it
allows you to navigate and operate
without the resistance that you would
get if you didn't have it and so a lot
of you that are receiving that you know
self-deprecation is something to look
into just poke fun at yourself take
yourself lightly don't take yourself too
seriously that's how I avoided getting
beaten up as a kid I believe it yeah I
believe it that was humor was my best
defense I could see that yeah yeah it's
interesting so all right so you can get
so good at something you can push
yourself you want your outside life to
match the internal Vision I want in the
book you go into like how people can
build these habits so that they can get
that life there are people watching
right now they have the dream but they
don't know how to get that life like
what are the secret things that you do
to
actually build the skill set you need to
achieve the skill set stuff is Habitual
so there's a bunch of things I talk
about in the book but I think one thing
that I just really believe that when you
have a worth level or a confidence level
that you can achieve something you're
far more resilient than when you don't
have that there's all these tools on
confidence that everybody teaches right
but I had a really profound experience
when I was young that changed my life
and and and it I've never linked my
ability to build a habit or my
confidence to my skill just stay with me
even though I built great skills I won a
contest in Hawaii I'm 28 I'm running
down the beach in Maui running the other
way and that is why you get rewarded for
getting up before the sun running the
other way is his bald kind of can see
he's got a hairy back he's sweating he's
running towards me and he's wearing a
Sony Walkman I'm wearing one too that's
how long ago it was so we're listening
to cassette tapes while we're running
right and so he runs by me and it's Dr
Wayne Dyer whoa who's a hero of mine and
I said Dr Dyer you changed my life and
he turns around he has a deep voice like
I do he goes well I highly doubt that he
goes I'm sure you changed your life but
what did I do to help you and he walks
towards me and we sit down on this beach
together and for 90 minutes I watch the
sun come up with Wayne Dyer and he gets
to know me and he pouring into me and at
the end he goes Ed you're going to
change the world how old are you at this
point 28 wow he probably said this to
some other people right and he goes I
just think you're brilliant the way you
can articulate your thoughts your
viewpoint on personal development and
changing oneself your experience with
your dad you're going to change the
world and he goes and that's not
why and he goes it'll be very dangerous
for you to attach yourself to your
abilities the rest of your life Wow and
I said I don't understand like if I
can't close or persuade I can't close a
sale if I he go no no I want you to have
all those things but if you had attach
your identity or Worth to the external
it's fleeting that's why so many pro
athletes when their career over they
don't know who they are I said well then
what do I do and he goes what's
beautiful about you Ed is your
intentions you have beautiful intent and
I knew that about myself was my
intentions what I did know is he was
writing a book at the time called The
Power of intentions and he goes would
you please please because you you you
have the talents would you please attach
your confidence and your worth and your
identity to your intention when you walk
into a stressful environment remind
yourself that you intend to serve you
intend to give because you may lack the
ability some times Ed you may lack the
answer sometimes but you'll never lack
the intent and that intent will put you
in a state where you can find the
answers brother all my life most of my
confidence has come from driving here
today I just intend to help people I
intend to make a difference I don't like
that I don't need to be here I'm rich
already forget all that stuff my
intentions are to help people forgetting
my current status one way or the other
and so I would recommend everybody to
take a real look inside you what are
your intentions your intentions to make
it differ your intentions to love people
your intentions to serve people is your
intent to serve your family is your
intent to make a difference if that's
the foundation for your worth and your
self-confidence you'll never have to
chase it again if it's something aside
from you a skill I got to get a talent I
got to get I got this you'll be chasing
it all of your life now having said that
I have a chapter on habits and how to
develop them and how to create a trigger
and how to create the the the behavior
and then how a reward when you do it so
habits are created by triggers then
there's the behavior then there's the
reward and I talk about about how to
build those habits but all of that is is
really not very productive if you don't
have some internal knowing that you
deserve to be successful that there's a
worth to you that a confidence that
exudes from you and I don't think that's
where my sister and I are that
dissimilar externally we're very
different people right different careers
different paths but I think my sister
maybe it's even unconscious doesn't even
do it intentionally no pun intended she
knows she intends to serve those
precious children every single day so
she walks in there with a confidence
that's bigger than her lack of vision
her lack of be able to see and I think
these students sense this beautiful
intent on this woman and because she's
self-deprecating she has this
overwhelming intent to serve there's not
a lot of backlash you're poking fun at
her and I in my life I haven't had a lot
of that to be honest with you I've had
far less resistance from other people
because I carry my intent with me
everywhere I go talk to me about State
change so you mentioned like you're
going into a stressful event remind
yourself that you're there to serve and
it it does switch something pretty
profoundly mhm what is a state change
how do you do it why does it matter
State change is the definition of
everything that I do so what I do when
I'm in a good State when I'm in that
moveing state whether I'm training and
working out or I've crushed a podcast or
I've crushed a show I create a physical
anchor so I link the emotional state to
the Anchor emotional state to the Anchor
could be you can tug on your shirt you
can pull on your right ear you can snap
your you've noticed probably 20 times
through this interview I snapped my
fingers I associate you with a finger
snap more than you could ever possibly
imagine and so for me that's the juice
and so when you get to a peak State link
it to something physical the more
repetitive it is and the higher the
emotional state that's why for example
you have them in Reverse if you've ever
walked into a room where something bad's
happened or hear a song or something it
IM immediately creates a trigger for you
because the emotional experience was so
high first time you did the naughty
naughty thing if there was a song
playing and that song comes back on you
go right back to that place don't you so
there's an emotional heightened State
and then something physical that happens
and so in my case when it's going really
good and I'm pumped and everything's
great I link it I link it I link it I
link it and so now then you can reverse
it back where that trigger creates that
state this is really not that
complicated I go into it in the book
it's amazing to me that we all have all
these unconscious triggers in our life
whether it is a song or a room or a
person or a memory or whatever and yet
we don't ever take control of them we
know they happen because they happen to
us all the time so all I've done in my
life is decid okay if that's the case
I'm going to create a few that serve me
and by the way the ones that you can
already hear my energy just went up the
reason it serves me is it can override
the negative State it's my pathway out
of the dark space it's my pathway out of
fatigue it's my pathway out of confusion
it's my pathway out of not knowing the
answer to something I all of a sudden
become a heck of a lot more resilient
when I'm in that state and I've got like
four or five of them I just did another
one of them right but I've got four or
five physical things I do that I've
linked if you're an athlete when you
make a big putt link it you make a big
putt link it you make a big putt link it
when you're in meditation even if
meditation when you've emptied your mind
if you can just create a trigger that
can take you back there then you don't
need to be legs crossed quiet every time
to feel that feeling it's one of the
things not talked about in meditation
because we're supposed to empty our mind
when we're done and the mind is no
longer empty just create a physical
trigger just you ever have someone in
your life just when they touch you you
feel Lisa touches you you feel different
Lisa is a trigger for you doubt of
comfort of confidence of what ecstasy
whatever it is so these things are
around us all the time how about we
start to take control of them how about
we start to be no pun intended
intentional about them so heighten State
Physical trigger heighten State Physical
trigger do it repeatedly and you're
going to find yourself a different
person when you need to change your
state I want to repeat that you're going
to find yourself a different person when
you need to change your state that's the
the thing about State change for me is I
don't feel like the same person like if
I get into a negative space I feel weak
and unsettled and then I can literally
will one of my sort of internal triggers
that I use is the phrase remember who
you are there you go and just saying
that to myself I'm like that's right
remember who you are there was this
incredible 90s cartoon Batman cartoon
and there's this episode I love this I
think about it all the time where Bruce
Wayne gets put in like an internment
camp basically and he can't get out and
then he he has Amnesia and then one
moment I forget what happens but he
remembers that he's Batman nothing
changes he just remembers that he's
Batman and all of a sudden he can escape
and I was like God you have that's a
state change that's a state change just
remembering who I am who you really are
and here's why that's important let me
throw something at you I think you'll
agree with that's who you truly are but
all of us are different people in
different times in different
circumstances and so it's a matter of
pulling this sounds hokey but about
pulling the most powerful resourceful
version of you out I'm a very different
person there's there's like 30 Ed
millets there's the Ed mlet when I'm
really down and I wake up in the morning
and I'm I got anxiety first thing I wake
up there's the Ed mlet when I'm with my
kids there's the Ed myet when I'm on a
stage there's the Ed myet when I'm doing
this there's the guy driving in the car
you all have these different versions of
you and you know that you do so the
question is when the one shows up who
doesn't serve you can you bring out the
one that you really are and so it's this
notion that this is who I am really
you're the same person all the time you
have the same emotions all the time the
same thoughts all the time the same
energy all the time of course you don't
there's many versions of you someone
like Kobe Bryant when the world was
melting and he's going to Colorado in
his trial and he's he somehow could find
a way to get on that court on a
Wednesday night in the middle of all
that turmoil and the black mama shows up
and all the people we admire in our
lives if you really think about it when
all the pressure's on they find a way to
step forward with the best possible
version of who they are and that's what
separates them it's not that they don't
have the weaker versions the Lesser
versions it's that they can pull the
right one forward when they need them
because they've either created the tools
athletes do it very naturally Tom Brady
let's fing go why does he say this out
loud it's like ridiculous right pton
Manning Omaha these are triggers they
might be in audible but it's also a
trigger that creates a state where he's
scanning the defense and now he's more
resourceful as Rees kicks in and he's
finding the hole the linebackers coming
this way that's where the open receiver
is going to be in the slot this is what
they're great at doing I just had a
fighter of mine this last weekend
getting a one of the fights and I have a
chapter in the book called equinity
which is calmness under duress it's a
really under discussed Topic in life and
usually when he's in these fights where
things start to really happen and he's
getting hit things speed up for him and
he starts going into the slugfest mode
and ultimately loses we talked about
Equanimity that the best version of so
he found his Trigger he stepped back he
went into Matrix time things slow
down and then they end up kicking a dude
in the head with one of the greatest
knockouts in the history of the UFC this
weekend in the same conditions that he's
lost other fights in so he pulled the
best calm equinity version of him
forward under duress as opposed to the
scattered frailed one and that's how
what it is in business and life and
parenting and our day-to-day existence
the power of one more that's right
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yeah I love it boys and girls I've read
the book it's amazing everything I've
ever seen Ed do is absolutely incredible
this man gives me the chills constantly
off camera he's as awesome as you want
him to be everything he teaches is
everything I needed to learn I have a
feeling it will impact all of you I
highly encourage you to get the book and
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those
chemicals that means then our thoughts
could make us sick so if it's possible
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