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I saw the interview with Jared Kushner
on Lex fredman and Kushner said um that
Trump always liked to leave people with
a 10% chance that he might nuke them
which is horrible I say it with a smirk
because I get the Showmanship of it but
there is something to the
unpredictability the no the belief that
that person is dangerous and that it is
merely strategy that keeps them in check
there is something to that and at at
that level to pretend that that isn't
real is to set yourself up for disaster
in fact I'd like to introduce my
favorite Thomas Soul quote which my
audience will have heard me say a
gazillion times the last 50
years have been marked by exchanging
what worked for what sounds good and
that feels like a lot of the policies a
lot of the ways that we talk about young
men toxic masculinity all of that is it
sounds nice it would be nice if we lived
in a world where everybody could just be
kind and gentle but we don't and so you
wear thin the armor of civilization when
you teach men to be
weak you know how when families there's
typically the one person everybody fears
and respects when they die there's chaos
and all of a sudden you know one person
is taking advantage of this person or
that person my my mother her her family
had some money the moment her parents
died uh one of her uh uh family members
took over all the money and he abused
everybody else he says you're not going
to get it I have it now but when Mom and
Dad were alive he couldn't do that the
moment they died he bullied everybody
from the money that he got that money
was supposed to go to a few people he
took it all and he gave crumbs to people
and he became that dictator you're lucky
I'm giving you this kind of money no
that was their money but because the
parents didn't put anything on paper he
stole it from everybody and he could do
that what's the moral of the story when
when that
Alpha when that leader is not present
bullies show up you know so so for us
again like this is a very chaotic time I
don't know when this is going to be
released you know whether it's one war
or the other war or this or that um
we're we're one or two people away of
being offended of World War II getting
started you know you got 16 million to
18 million people died World War I you
know 60 million on two third one if we
go at this trajectory could be 200
million Jes the the job that we have
collectively is to try to do whatever we
can to turn down the temperature not
increase it you know if if you and your
wife get into an argument and you call
me and you say you won't believe what
she said my job isn't to say she said
that Tom oh dude if she would have said
that to me it's done you k kidding me
doesn't she realize how amazing you are
how lucky she is to have you instead is
to say Tom come on bro she loves you and
you know you love her she's partly right
bro I'm G to take her side how could you
say something like that you're not on my
side you're on her side probably on this
one but I'm telling you privately I'd go
back and try to make this work screw you
Pat totally get it bro let me know if
you want to talk later you get off the
phone I have a job and it's called Doug
diffuse unify and be the glue we don't
have a lot of Dougs around the world
today we have division today we have
divisiveness today so but if there's
that one strong personality leader of
the Free World a Churchill a Reagan a
person you don't want to mess with the
world is typically a safe place yeah
that is um it it is maybe a balanced
place where the level of danger that is
always ready to pop off is currently
held at Bay um but I think the the
reason that that
Works where strong men make good times
good times make weak men so on and so
forth works is because when things are
good the seed of its own instability is
present because of that Loop and I don't
know that there's any way to escape it
it's one of the things that makes so
predictable I agree now Church Hill is a
fascinating character in fact this will
be fun because I never get anybody that
can talk about Churchill I absolutely am
just blown away by Church Hill and you
can say what you want and did he have
have his flaws of course he did but this
is a guy that felt he had let his
country down in a uh
military This World War I uh he makes a
mistake leading the Navy and he says
okay I know exactly how to come back
from this I'm going to even though he
could have just gone back to England he
says no put me on the front line and so
he goes to the front line and he said
other people didn't want to walk with
him on the night patrols because he
would just talk out loud and they're
like bro we're going to get shot like
what are you doing and he he uh said to
his mother I have such a need to earn a
reputation for physical courage that
I'll basically do anything and so he
stays in the front line multiple times
narrow narrowly escapes getting killed
sees countless people die around him and
said to himself okay now after I forget
how long but it was a long time again
all voluntary uh he's like now I've
earned my way back to Parliament and he
goes back to England and re-engages in
government life and I just thought whoa
like I'm not even saying I could do it
but I'm saying I admire it and I'm
saying that men ought to have that kind
of courage and that to me we've had 70
years where we really on our own soil
where we have not had to face um
violence and danger I'm not taking
anything away from the men and women
that have served um overseas OB
obviously but there's something that
still let our country's psyche be lulled
into the sense that we don't need men
standing on the wall protecting us and
that worries me military meaning we
don't need a military yeah basically I
mean so uh I was quoting the uh line
from A Few Good Men where he's like men
like me and the thing is I hope what we
were supposed to take away from that is
that he's a complicated character and
yes some of the things he did were
despicable but he's also right and
that's what keeps him from being a
caricature is you you are asking people
to risk being shot you're asking them to
kill other people I mean it it is
horrific horrific
and there
is there is an evolutionary seed inside
certainly inside the male brain that
makes that very possible POS you know if
if there's anything like any man that
wants to earn forget about you know
should I go become rich should I go have
a six-pack should I be in shape should I
do this if you pursue anything if you
earn moral
Authority you you're going to have a lot
of
self-respect you'll have self-respect in
a way you lead your wife and your kids
you'll have self-respect in the
companies you lead and you'll have
self-respect in a community does this
mean you're going to be a billionaire
not necessarily doesn't mean you're
going to be a millionaire not
necessarily but if you earn the right
and you have that moral Authority
there's something to earning that that
takes years that doesn't happen
overnight when you're telling the story
with Churchill there's something to it
there's something to you know a guy
setting the pace from the front there's
something to earning the right you know
there's something to this is why for me
with the voting system that we have I
think our voting system is totally
screwed up in America couple areas of it
I'm not a fan of it because for me I I
would much rather have a 16-year-old kid
who has a job working at McDonald's who
made 20 grand last year and paid $3,000
in taxes I want him to vote over the 25y
old bum living with his mom and dad not
going to school not getting a degree not
doing anything for him to vote I don't
want this guy to vote I want to hear
from this 16-year old kid let this guy
vote our system is too much of yeah here
you go yeah here you go now earn the
right to vote once you earn the right to
vote well just by being an American
don't I earn the right to vote I totally
get it but you got to have some you like
pull your little red wagon how are you
going to contribute to society well that
you're discriminating against dude I'm
from Iran I was born in Iran half
Armenian half a Syrian I'm a 1. agpa kid
I'm a welfare kid I'm not a kid that
came up here was going to be something
but I wanted to come back and earn the
right to say hey I want to earn this
respect that America gave to me I want
to go do my part I think we have to go
more towards that in our house our
kids you know everybody's talking right
now about having a phone I don't know
how many articles I've read that the
more you delay your kids getting a phone
the more happier they're going to be by
the way parents if you're watching this
do yourself a favor and go watch the
movie disconnect disconnect I don't have
a phone to see who's the actor but one
of the guys is the I don't know if
you've seen this movie or not disconnect
is baitman what's his name is it Jason
baitman is that his first name certainly
is so the guy is that from Horrible
Bosses okay so that guy this movie
disconnect is a story about a boy who 12
13 14 year old kid goes to school
there's a girl he likes these two
bullies knows he likes the girl they
create a a Facebook profile with the
girls picture befriend everybody in high
school thinking that's the girl but it's
not she DMS him on Facebook in the movie
this is 11 years ago 2012 and says hey
please don't tell anybody but I really
like you I'm shy I don't want to tell
others but I like the way you're oh my
god I've loved you and they're going
back and forth she says I'll show you
mine if I if you show me yours but it's
the two boys so the boy send a picture
of somebody else they got from a porn
side he opens it so he sends it and then
she says but I want to see your face in
it as well so he does the next day he
goes to school everybody's laughing at
him because those two bullies took the
picture spread it around the school then
the boy runs away comes home is in his
room listening to heavy metal music is
trying to hang himself daughter sister
walks in prevents it from happening and
saves us life and then have to figure
out how this happened because the
parents weren't involved there's so many
different things going right now in
society that we we have to we have to be
aware of people earning stuff phones are
dangerous today that you know kids are
picking up on what can happen to them if
you do you have to educate them if you
do you have to hold them account if you
do you have to watch and see what's
going on but in our family um everything
starts with earning uh the currency in
our house of talked about this God knows
how many times is reading you read you
earn the right the more you read the
more you can ask for if your grades are
solid you get to ask for more if it's
not you don't and people say Pat how
could you have standards like that when
you had a one point GPA what does that
have to do with anything I didn't have
those standards I simply grew up in a
house that nobody cared what my grades
were there there was never an
expectation of me doing anything my grad
so guess what I'm going to rise up to
the standards of whatever whatever it is
as as a 14 15 16 year old there was no
standards so I was left alone in our
house there is standards there is
expectations you got to perform to it
you do you get more so America started
off as
earning we got away from that because
earn is now another one of these curse
words that people don't like to talk
about how could you say something like
that how could you say something like
that all you care about is money all you
care about is this now man I cared about
you being proud of the contribution
you're making to society because the
more proud you are of the contribution
you're making to society
the safer the place is going to be the
less you contribute to society the more
bitter you're going to be feeling like
everybody owes you something and then
you could do something very bad to
everybody else so yes I think we need to
go back to earning like when you're
telling the story of Churchill to have
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