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What this guy says about Alex Hermosia's
success is dumb, but I'm not going to
lie, he's got a point.
>> The more famous your favorite influencer
is, the more traumatized they probably
are. And I can show you why you've been
taking advice from some of the most
broken people in society. You don't
become Alex Herozi when you had a
beautiful childhood of being
unconditionally loved and accepted. Only
a deeply troubled person chooses to
sacrifice every relationship, every
moment of peace, every other aspect of
their humanity just to accumulate more
money than they could ever spend in 10
lifetimes. That is not success. That's
unhealed trauma disguised as ambition.
David Gogggins is running 200 mile
ultramarathons on destroyed knees
because for some reason he believes he's
worthless if he's not torturing his
body. Kobe Bryant's own family and
teammates said he was pretty miserable
to be around because he couldn't turn
off the obsession. Everything he
accomplished in his career came at the
expense of basic human connections. Tim
Ferrris has interviewed every top
relationship expert on the planet, but
he can't hold a romantic relationship in
his own life. And he's been courageously
open and vulnerable about his romantic
struggles. But that level of obsession
with efficiency and optimization leaves
people emotionally unavailable. Our
modern society straight up isn't
designed for happy, healthy, fulfilled
people to rise to extraordinary fame.
>> He's saying a lot of true things. It's
really interesting. He's putting a dark
spin on it. He's got a frame of
reference. He's pushing like a negative
view of this stuff. We are products of
evolution. Or maybe even worse, God in
his infinite wisdom. All right, I'm
going to put these obsessions or if God
is real, God has decided if you were
abused as a child, the odds of you being
broken forever border on 100%. It's
crazy. Hey, either evolution or God has
yielded that result. Mhm.
>> My take on this is all of these things
that he's pointing out as pathology, I
think is a mistake to point them out as
pathology. We live in a society where
people are a thousand dice with 20 sides
in them roll different traits of
different amplitudes. And so some people
get really high obsession. Like I have
really high obsession and really low
addiction. So I'll get super into
something but the second I see it's
problematic in my life I stop. and no
problem and I turn and focus on
something else. I can literally just
decide I'm going to go get obsessed
about this thing and I will legitimately
go get obsessed and it's wonderful. Now,
this guy could easily look at my life
and pathize it,
>> but it doesn't feel like pathology
inside my life. Now, I can look at
somebody else's life and pathize it and
say like, "Oh my god, this person
doesn't even want anything. They're not
pushing hard. Do they not even have
goals?" But again, that's with my roll
of the dice. You need to be careful
because goals make demands. So if for
Kobe it was more enjoyable to be the
greatest of all time than it was to be a
dad and a father, what's the problem?
There is pathology and some people can
get caught up. And if you get a high
role of addiction and so you can't stop.
Okay, that I'm sure would not be a lot
of fun. How many of us have seen
somebody who's morbidly obese eating a
bowl of ice cream in shame? That to me
is like one of the greatest tragedies on
planet Earth. you're shortening your
lifespan, which I don't have any beef
with. That's your life. Do what you want
with it. Either don't eat the ice cream
and lose the weight, or eat the ice
cream and say, "I love it. I want to eat
this. I would prefer to have a shortened
life and enjoy this thing." The only one
that breaks my heart is when somebody's
going to do the thing anyway,
>> and they're going to hate themselves for
it. The great irony of this guy talking
into a camera saying that the most
famous people are the most broken. He's
trying to get socially famous cuz it's
super high utility. Yeah, don't pathize
everything. All right, back to my mans
here.
>> It's designed for the most traumatized
people to claw their way to the top
because trauma is what creates obsessive
drive and that's what our system
rewards. Normal, healthy, welladjusted
people do not sacrifice their health for
millions of followers.
>> Everybody needs meaning and purpose.
There have been times in my life where I
have sacrificed my health and the result
has been millions of followers because I
was just working hard and doing that was
a thing that um had high utility. But
the real goal was something else, right?
Meaning and purpose. You could just as
easily do a video about the poor guy
who's a billionaire and ends up killing
himself because it was like, what did I
do all this for? I have all this money,
all this influence, and it just doesn't
matter. That's a person that never
figured out meaning and purpose. God,
evolution, universe, whatever has
decided that we are mountain climbers
>> and we are not people that
>> will feel good at the top of a mountain.
It was like the day that I got all the
money, I was like all my insecurities
are still here. I I laughed
>> because I was I knew that that was
coming, but still to live through it was
pretty funny. If your mountain is, hey,
right now I want to see how many
followers I can get. It's going to help
me with this thing. You may lean on your
trauma at times to keep you motivated.
Trauma is really useful. If you know
how, again, it's a costic thing. It will
burn you. If you fail to understand the
power of the dark side, then you're
never going to achieve the way that
somebody who can use both the light and
the dark will be able to achieve. When I
am at my most fatigued, I don't think
about the beautiful things that I'm
trying to do, the people that I'm trying
to help. That was all the way up to
getting fatigued. I just think about I
want to help people. I want meaning and
purpose. And so I'm going all in. Some
people going to clock as a pathology,
but goals make demands. Then I'll click
into, oh, there are [ __ ] that
want me to fail. There are people that
believe I'm a loser. I am not going to
let them be right. I mean, this is why I
absolutely worship at the feet of the
original Star Wars trilogy because
George Lucas sat down with Joseph
Campbell, the guy that wrote The Power
of Myth, and was like, "You understand
these 10,000 plus year old storylines
that humans have been telling themselves
literally for all of recorded history
inside of you is a dark force. And you
can use it. It's very powerful, but if
you're not careful, it consumes you.
This is Empire Strikes Back. Luke in the
cave. Who when Luke cuts the um helmet
off of Darth Vader, who is revealed
inside the helmet? Luke Skywalker. So
Luke realizes, "Oh, I'm capable of
becoming Darth Vader." But at the same
time, Luke has to dip into the dark side
to fully manifest his powers as a Jedi.
If you don't know how to use it, the
dark side is a huge missed opportunity.
If you can't get out of it, the dark
side becomes extreme pathology. But if
you know how to walk that middle way of
like, okay, every now and then I'm going
to dip into this. Oh, I'm going to think
about some dark things, it's very
powerful. All right, back to our man cuz
I do I want to get to both of these
videos.
>> They have selfworth that isn't tied to
external validation. And you are not
some kind of loser because you haven't
achieved their level of success. You're
not quite broken enough to feed the
machine. Stop taking advice from people
who hate their lives.
>> That is very true. Be careful who you
take advice from. So, for instance, if
you want to be the greatest father in
the world, you need to be very careful
taking advice from me. If you want an
awesome marriage, you can literally take
my advice from top to bottom. My
marriage is [ __ ] awesome and I've
been married for 23 years, together for
25. So, a entrepreneurship, you can take
my advice all day long. I know exactly
what I'm doing. I've been doing it for
25 years. Extreme success to show for
it. I would say look for the person
that's actually done it. That's far
better advice. Which is why when I say,
"All right, I'm going to give parental
advice." I fully assume people are going
to disregard it. Even though I I do
believe I'm right, but because I haven't
done it, I have the humility to know
most people should just ignore me. This
is video two. Video two. Here we go.
>> Comment said I was promoting mediocrity.
Here's why they're triggered. They
believe hard work creates wealth. It
doesn't.
>> Pause. More hard.
>> That is higharious.
Now, hard work does not equal success.
Let's be very clear. You can work your
ass off and go absolutely nowhere. The
only thing that matters is doing the
right thing in that moment. The most
successful person on planet Earth, bar
none, is uh Elon Musk. Even if you just
clock him as an engineer or even if you
just clock him as a person who gathers
talent, he's not always the wealthiest
person. And I'll still say he's the most
successful person because he's a person
that has set goals and has just like
knocked them down one after another, one
after another. Doing things other people
thought were impossible. He's about to
tell you like just set up systems. It'll
all work without you. This is amusing to
me. And look, I welcome people. I Hey,
all of you make things as easy as you
can. 1,000%. There's no valor in um
working harder than you need to. I just
have a feeling that life is going to
teach you over and over and over that
one, working hard feels awesome because
I think we have an evolutionary
algorithm that insists that we work
hard. There's an upper limit for sure.
uh you will push into pathology very
quickly, but you work hard because it's
just hard to beat people. You're
competing. This is a competition and
you're competing against a lot of
people. So, you're going to have to work
hard. Just is what it is.
>> Universe gives you more of what you
already are. Desperate energy attracts
desperation. Abundant energy attracts
abundance.
>> That makes me want to smash something.
Abundant energy doesn't attract
anything. Th this is like, okay, if
you've never seen The Secret, it's
almost worth watching. Half of it is
brilliant and will change your life. The
half that's brilliant goes like this. If
you think you can, you can. If you think
you can't, you can't. Because your frame
of reference controls what you see. So,
if your frame of reference is I'm a
loser, then you're not going to do the
things you need to do. You're not even
going to see the opportunities because
you don't think to take advantage of
them. Manifest a parking spot. make your
cancer go away by thinking that's all
full [ __ ] None of that stuff works,
nor is it real. Like life is about the
series of things that you do. And if you
do the right things, even if you do them
for the wrong reasons, you will get the
right outcome. Think about how many good
people you know that just never come
together for them. They just didn't do
the right things. The world didn't
respond to them in the way that they
wanted to. We all have our limitations.
If uh if a woman is let's say she's a
six, if she were a 10, life would be
totally different. She doesn't do
anything to earn being a 10. Just good
genetics. Not good or bad. It's just
humans have a hard wiring to respond to
beauty. Just is what it is.
>> Made hundreds of millions of dollars
working 16our days, sleeping on gym
floors, and sacrificing everything else.
I can't touch that number. But I have
made millions.
>> You know why you can't touch that
number? Cuz you're not willing to do the
things that that goal demands. Now, he
may not care about it. His life may be
better than Alex's. From a what does it
feel like to be inside your body? That's
all that matters. Do you have your own
respect? When you're by yourself, is
life awesome or is it terrible? If life
is awesome, speaking from experience,
you have won. If life is terrible, you
have lost. I have been rich and
miserable. I've been poor and happy.
I've been poor and miserable. I've been
rich and happy. Whenever I look at,
okay, what's really going on? It's what
what am I thinking about where I'm at?
If I'm thinking, "Hey, you're really
trying. You're putting in energy."
There's like an optimism about my
future, my life feels good. When I feel
like I'm losing and I'm just a dumbass
and I'm never going to get there and I'm
pessimistic about my future, I feel
terrible. If I say I'm going to do
something and then I don't do it, I lose
respect for myself. That feels terrible.
He really may be happier than Alex. But
when you step back and look at the
advice,
>> what Alex did is absolutely incredible.
I mean, it is incredible. I was there on
the day that he did it. It was
absolutely incredible. Totally
mind-blowing. That doesn't mean it made
him happy, but it does mean that he had
a goal. That goal made demands and he
met the demands of that goal. And it's
breathtaking because it lets us all
know, oh, cool. I just need to figure
out what my goal is. I need to figure
out what the demands are that that goal
makes. And then, am I going to do it? Am
I going to be able to do it? There are
many, many paths to Valhalla, as they
say. While traveling to over 20
countries with the love of my life,
prioritizing my health, building deep
community, living months abroad, and
having incredible adventures like
Burning Man, I wouldn't trade those
memories for billions. Here's what you
don't understand. You follow Hormos's
model because he's constantly in your
face. He's famous. He has to be. His
entire system requires him showing up
daily to feed the content machine. He's
the most trapped of all.
>> The only thing that would trap anybody
that's like, I'm going after that goal,
is if they make the mistake that my
worth is tied to the accomplishment.
Never ever ever ever ever ever allow
your sense of self, your self-worth,
your self-esteem to be tied to
accomplishment. You can never guarantee
the accomplishment. You can guarantee
the struggle. You can guarantee
integrity, but you can't guarantee that
you're going to achieve the thing that
you set out to achieve. And by the way,
when you achieve it, you're just you're
a mountain climber, so you're going to
look for the next thing. So, anybody
that makes the mistake of tying their
self-worth to like whether it works or
not, like I think about this a lot with
game development. I could I am I am
literally having the time of my life. I
may fail at this. This game may go
nowhere, but when I'm alone and I'm
trying to problem solve like how to
build this world and I'm sitting there
and I'm looking at Minecraft, I'm like,
why is the m why is Minecraft the
greatest video game of all time? I will
[ __ ] die on that hill. And I'm
actually able to compartmentalize, oh,
it's this and it's this and it's this.
Like that that journey of like trying to
solve for that is extraordinary. and
then translating that to, okay, how do I
put this into an actual game, a thing
that can be coded. Now, let's say that I
pull that off and the game is amazing,
but we fail on marketing. Or let's say
that the game sucks, we market the life
out of it, people play it, but they hate
it. Or let's say the game is the hottest
thing for 2 years, and then it
disappears. All of those things are so
possible. So, I know better than to tie
myself, how I feel about myself, to any
of those outcomes. Do not tie yourself
to outcomes.
>> They're not on Instagram. They're at
their kids soccer game or flying to Bali
with their partner. They don't feed the
machine because they don't need the
machine. You never consider them because
they're invisible to you. The ones who
don't use their face to make money. Who
built systems that run without them, who
chose freedom over fame. You get to pick
whatever you want.
>> Freedom and fame are not mutually
exclusive. In the age of social media,
the vast majority of us are 3 weeks away
from total anonymity. So, this has
happened to me enough times where I'll
reboot my channel and so I'll be getting
big and I'll be recognized every time I
go out and then I reboot the channel and
I literally in 3 weeks I am invisible. I
don't get recognized. Nobody comes up to
me anymore. Then I'll build the channel
back and I'll get, hey, every time I go
out I'm getting recognized and then I'll
reboot the channel again and I'll
disappear. You're going to be forgotten
far faster than you think. So, it really
is only if you think you're valuable
because you have followers, now you're
trapped.
>> Want wealth and actual freedom? Study
the invisible rich. The people attacking
my video need their way to be right
because they lack conviction. They
outsource their life blueprint to
whoever is the loudest. Suggest another
path exists and their ego melts down.
The grinders will always invent more
work so they can keep grinding. It's all
they know.
>> So interesting. Going back to the
thousand dice that are 20sided, I think
the reward you get for hard work or even
the impulse you have to work hard is
going to be different in everybody. So
for me, I really didn't have it as a kid
though, which is fascinating. But over
time, I responded very aggressively to,
okay, hard work is a value.
>> Now, when I work hard, I feel really
good about myself. When you see somebody
like David Gogggins, that to me is the
one where you really have to be careful.
And I've said many times, and hopefully
David will forgive me for saying this,
but I'm blown away by David. I'm very
inspired by David. I don't want to be
David. Mhm.
>> It does feel like he's being chased by
something because I have a invisible
value that I don't want to beat my body
up like that because I do worry about
him. And I mean maybe with modern
science he'll be fine but like when I
look at Ronnie Coleman I have that same
sense of like bro you broke your body
down so hard you accomplished something
that was amazing. I Tom Billu as one
dude would not make that trade. So again
just be careful who you take advice
from. I don't like it when people
pathize quote unquote grind culture. I
think working your ass off is a
rewarding in and of itself, even if you
fail. B, if you're competing on a world
stage, it's very difficult. You are
going up against the best of the best of
the best. And if you want to win, it's
going to be hard as hell. But it's also
awesome. Make no mistake, I want to be
the biggest live streamer that the world
has ever seen or could possibly ever
imagine. Do I think I'm going to be?
Probably not.
But I value myself for the sincere
pursuit.